“Blog Feelings” are stupid.

Is this thing on? Hello?
So, it’s been a while since I’ve posted here. I’ve been thinking a lot about blogging and my reasons for continuing to do this 6 years after I first started. I just haven’t been able to translate those thoughts into The Written Word. I hate admitting that I have feelings about blogging. But I do. And you do too. We all do. It’s just kind of lame to talk about those feelings. Or maybe it’s only lame when I talk about them because I am, generally speaking, kind of lame.
A couple of weeks ago I had a conversation with my daughter that I never wanted to forget, so I posted the conversation word for word.
The post was submitted to stumbleup*n and without warning, there were 10,000 strangers reading that entry, every day for an entire week. I have never in the history of my blog had that kind of traffic. Not even close. And to be honest with you, I do not want that kind of traffic. It brings out the Scary People. I was completely freaked out by the number of people visiting my blog, but tried not to pay too much attention to it.
But then, people started shitting all over the post and my blog, saying things like “you should have your daughters ass checked for worms.” And “Your Grandpa sux, I’m glad he died and happy for your loss!” and my favorite “go to hell!” (because my post wasn’t funny. Keep in mind, it was a real life conversation that I had with my four year old daughter, NOT a script for a sit com.)
I’m no stranger to Asshole Comments. I understand the internet is not always a nice place. You should see the comments that I get here from time to time. (The most recent one on my anniversary post from a mom of 2 in Alabama who said “The reason you two are still together is because you are too fat and he is too ugly to find someone else….eat the dip and have a nice day!”)
(Excuse me for a minute while I address Christine personally since she won’t answer my emails to her fake email address: What is your problem with bean dip? You bring it up in almost every comment, it’s like you hate it or something. You can insult me all you want, but LEAVE THE DIP ALONE. What did the dip ever do to you, man? P.S. Have a nice day too!)
I know the internet isn’t always a peace, love and Jesus loves you kind of place and I am mostly fine with it. But the level of hatred that I experienced over an innocent conversation was a bit overwhelming.
There really isn’t a point in writing about this. I think I just needed to write it out so that I can try to move on from the crazy experience and continue doing what I love to do…Write stories about my life so that I never forget.
Because I love my life, as simple and ordinary as it is. I really, truly do.

112 thoughts on ““Blog Feelings” are stupid.

  1. Julie

    Yvonne, we love you and your blog and that’s why we come over to read. We see ourselves in you and can relate to your struggles and your happy moments!
    And all the haters can fuck off.
    Love ya!
    Julie

  2. Shannon

    Kudos to you Y! Do what you want to do, how you want to do it and enjoy yourself! Live your life to the fullest and always include the bean dip!

  3. Jackie

    People are so negative and mean, it’s unbelievable. But screw them and continue doing what you’re doing. Because for every five assclowns, is a person who thinks or feels or smiles because of something you said.
    Long live the bean dip! (p.s. I hate beans but I’m being supportive of the dippage.)

  4. Hilary

    Y,
    I thought the conversation you had with your daughter was priceless, and I mean it. I can’t imagine ANYONE ignorant and rude enough to find something wrong with what you said. Hang in there and ignore the a$$holes.

  5. Lisa

    I am one of many that “stumbled” across your conversation with your daughter about your family’s loss. I, however, was not one of many that left those awful comments.
    The minute I read that post, I was touched to tears…and then laughter. I snooped through the rest of your blog and decided that you were “worthy” to be added to my bookmarks of other mom’s blogs that I pseudo-cyber-stalk. I have enjoyed reading your older posts and been touched by so much that I read.
    There really isn’t a point to this….other than to say. Please don’t stop blogging because of those jerks who can’t say anything nice. There are those of us out there who enjoy what you write….and who can definitely relate to your feelings of love towards bean dip!
    🙂

  6. Ali

    I usually don’t see the comments on people’s blogs since I’m viewing most of them through Google Reader. And that includes yours. So I didn’t see any of the nasties you received on that post. It’s a shame people sink that low to get attention. But I must say I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog. You’re on my “daily reading” list. And I personally thought that story was very sweet!

  7. Maria

    For every bitch like that you have hundreds of bitches like us. That adore you, and think you’re the best thing since sliced bread.

  8. Beth Nixon

    Oh my.
    I’m a bit speechless.
    I guess if I don’t like a blog, then I don’t read it. The people that have enough time to read something that makes them angry AND then find the time to post a nasty comment? A truly nasty, mean comment?
    How sad their lives must be.
    I’ve read blogs that have made me mad or upset. I may read a few more times to see if it’s just a one time thing. If it happens again, I take them out of my reader.
    How simple is that to make my life easier and nicer? Why waste one second of our lives being upset or being, senselessly, nasty?
    It can only be because they are sad, sad people.
    They have my pity. Not my anger. How depressed they must be to strike out like that.
    And, by the way, I love your blog. It’s why I’m here.

  9. Jenn

    Yeah, WTF haters? They can all go fuck off for sure.
    You rock. Ignore the assholes of the world. Some people apparently have nothing better to do than insult strangers. You could even be a big person and feel sorry for them. (I wouldn’t though, I prefer the hate. I’m shallow like that.)

  10. Nina

    How can someone hate bean dip? I mean, that stuff is SO GOOD! LOL
    I’d really like to know how people find the time to be all rude and insulting to complete strangers. I work maybe 20 hours a week and spend the majority of my time off sitting at my computer (or laying on the couch watching TV if I’m feeling extra lazy), and I don’t even have time to do something like that.

  11. Kristie

    Seriously? How could *anyone* find anything not to adore about the conversation with your daughter? I thought it was wonderful …. and now I’m sorry that I don’t comment more often on your blog, since my comments would always be positive, to cross out the nastiness left by assholes. Please know that for every one person with nothing better to do with their time than write something nasty in your comments, there are hundreds (hell, probably thousands) more of us who love you. (but are just too lazy to comment … at least I’m speaking for myself.) Like others have said, I don’t normally read the comments so I was unaware of the situation … but in reading these today, I must say, the comment about changing your blog background to a giant can of bean dip made me laugh out loud! 🙂

  12. Cheri

    Seriously people need to get a life if they can’t find anything better do to than to insult strangers on the internet!! And most do it bc they are way too chicken to ever say any of that shit to a person’s face.

  13. Michele

    Look at this, I can actually comment! Sadly, I usually read in reader at work, but apparently your site is hated by my work and ended up behind a firewall, which meant that I couldn’t comment. But I quit my job, which means I can read from home now. Anyhow – I think all of us, especially after asshattery, need to get back to knowing why it is we blog anyway. For me, it’s to chronicle my life… As mundane as it can be. For others, it’s professional. For others, it’s therapeutic… and the reasons go on. The only real asshattery I’ve ever experienced was when I talked about my tattoos, and I was told I should be sterilized. But hey. I love your conversations, and your thoughts, and the way you communicate them. So, pass the dip!

  14. Karla

    I love reading your blog too. Don’t let those dipshits deter you from what you love to do. There are more people that read your blog loyally then there will ever be people who trash it. Please don’t stop writing. Your stories warm my heart and make me laugh. I’ve grown to love your family through your blogs and realize that having a family is the most important thing in this world. That one can get through anything with a great family. Please, please, please don’t stop posting! And for all of those that leave bad comments: Didn’t your mother teach you, “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all!?!?!?”

  15. Rebecca (Bearca)

    Keep doing what you are doing! You are hilarious and real, and that’s why all of us keep reading the old blawg.
    All the other jerks/haters out there can suck it! U R awesome. 🙂

  16. mickey

    “For every bitch like that you have hundreds of bitches like us. That adore you, and think you’re the best thing since sliced bread.
    Posted by: Maria at December 2, 2008 2:21 PM”
    I couldn’t have said it better myself!
    It’s a shame that there are are so many ignorant people in the world. It’s an even bigger shame that they can’t find a better use for their time.
    However, I am THRILLED that you spend your time sharing your life with us. Thank you. Really. You rock.

  17. faithsalutes

    I think you are amazing. I love your blog and that conversation makes me want to have kids.
    I cannot believe people write that shit to you. I am saying what everyone else is saying…but I figure it will drown out the assholes.

  18. SharonO

    Y, I’ve been a reader for a looooong time and, in a way I feel as though I know you and your family intimately, like we might even hang out together if we lived on the same coast … but in all the years I’ve read your blog, I have left maybe 2 or 3 comments. I just don’t get how total strangers feel as though they can insinuate themselves into your life to say more than “That was a great post! You made my day! Kthxbai!”
    Nettiquette … they’re doing it wrong. 🙁

  19. Hilly

    I’ve been around the block a few times and have been blogging about the same amount of time you have. And yet, it still astonishes me when strangers feel that they have a right to come to my “home” and leave nasty comments about crap they know nothing about. I open myself up to it, sure…but I’d rather hear a *constructive* criticism every day from a regular reader than one lame put-down from some random yokel!

  20. Mom24@4evermom

    We definitely all have feelings about blogging, why else would we do it? You’ve taught me to be careful what I wish for when it comes to increased traffic…why do there have to be such mean, strange people out there. Sorry they found you. I hope you can put it behind you and enjoy the *sane* people who love to read you.

  21. Kimberly

    That’s so fucking crazy, Y. I have no idea why people feel the need to reach out and smack someone verbally.
    You do good work here. You take beautiful pictures and write heartfelt, well-crafted words. Don’t let anything they say deter you from continuing.
    And dissing bean dip? That’s just wrong. I would marry bean dip if I could.
    xo

  22. Dawn Elizabeth

    Wow. I check your blog everyday and never have the urge to say anything as terrible as those crazy people! Who need some counseling, seriously! I hope you don’t let them get you down and continue for another 6 years!

  23. Lori

    Please keep doing what you are doing Y. I love reading your blog, and it makes me feel like I know you. And you are a good person to know.
    I’ve thought about running into you on the street (fat chance since I live in Nebraska), but I know I would totally hug you and tell you how much I love you. But not in a weird sort of way. But it would be weird because we’ve never met. And how would you react, being hugged by a total stranger who knew your name? Now, what was my point?
    Oh yeah, please keep writing!!

  24. Jessica

    I hate the trolls, especially ones named Christine.
    Hey, if she can hate on someone she doesn’t know, then so can I.

  25. merlotmom

    I read your post and thought it was beautiful. I loved it. There are some very sad, very angry people out there and it’s hard not to take their venom personally. Please try NOT to. Keep writing. For you and for us.

  26. Michelle

    I read your post regularly. I love that it’s ordinary, that you don’t necessarily have something profound to say (Who really wants to be preached at every day? Isn’t that what we go to church for?)
    All those haters can just go F off.
    Seriously. We love you just the way you are.
    🙂

  27. apathy lounge

    The internets and-thus-the world is/are full of hateful people. People who want to spew their venom but who hide behind fake email addresses and anonymous comments because they can’t deal with whatever might come their way. These are small people. Don’t let your blog or your words here be marginalized by their stunted emotional vitriol. Let karma do its business with them and you keep doing what you do best: writing damn good words for a waiting audience of friends and readers.

  28. adri

    i wonder about the people that have the free time to write mean shit. i mean, if you don’t like a post, don’t read it. go fold your laundry instead, or something. i’m so sorry stupid people left stupid comments. i’ve missed your writing these last couple of days!

  29. leeann

    I am and have been a fan. I thought the post was funny and tender and sad and sweet.
    Sorry people were so darn crummy.
    I missed it all since I have you on Reader!

  30. Terri

    Shit! Now I feel extremely guilty for loving that post so much and guilty that it really lifted my spirits when I was in an exceptionally bad mood and when I wrote my blog I was so grateful that you shared that wonderful conversation that I linked back to it, thinking everyone else would feel the same way I did. I hope NO ONE who read my blog was one of those assholes. I don’t care what anyone says, it was a GREAT post and I am selfishly grateful that you shared it.

  31. Suzanne

    Holy Heck!!! That was one wonderful post and I for one, come to read the cool conversations that you have with your daughter. Keep up with what you are doing… when someone does something that is hateful, it usually means they want to be like you! And don’t forget that when God closes a door, he opens another one, and sometimes it can be hell in the hallway. Don’t get stuck in the hall!
    Suzanne
    http://www.sugarloafcottage.blogspot.com

  32. Assertagirl

    Feelings about blogging aren’t stupid, but mean and rude comments sure are. I’m glad you’ve found a way to move beyond that suckiness because you are fantastic and add a lot of love to the blogosphere.

  33. DogsDontPurr

    Mmmmm….bean dip! I haven’t had bean dip in ages, but now I am CRAVING it!
    It’s awful that you get mean comments. But I feel sorry for the people who do that. They are obviously really troubled and crying for attention. They need help, but either don’t know it or refuse it or don’t know how to get it….or worse, they can’t afford it. It’s sad. And unfortunately, there’s not much you can do other than to ignore them.
    Anywayyyy…..I love your blog. You have a great way of writing that really draws me in. And your photos are amazing. So don’t let the crazy negativity get you down too much. ((Hugs))

  34. Lisa P.

    Unbelievable that someone would be so mean and nasty. Likely because she wants to be JUST LIKE YOU, HAVE WHAT YOU HAVE and can’t stand the fact that she isn’t and doesn’t. Don’t sweat folks like that. She’s probably alone and desperate and probably IS NOT the mom of 2, nor from Alabama. One lie leads to another and the biggest lies are the ones she told you.
    All my best,
    Lisa

  35. Sonya

    I guess that’s a reason to be grateful only 5 people read my blog…LOL. Anyway, I’m sorry that the mass of people reading freaked you out, and even sorrier that so many people feel entitle to write meanness all over the ‘net.
    I ended up subscribing to your blog because of a post I read, but I think it was from a Friday Five a couple weeks ago…I hust realized yesterday that I hadn’t had a post from you in my Reader yet (when your post from your other blog came through)
    Look forward to reading more

  36. carma

    I am so bummed to read this post. Please don’t let those idiots ruin your spirit. Chalk it up to jealousy on their part. You are able to connect with people in a way that they never will….

  37. JesseeezMom

    Oh Y! You must consider the source…Christine is from Alabama-she is bitter you are blessed to live in sunny SoCal and that’s all she could come up with.
    I Love You, Love your Blog and best of all had beans for dinner! Woot! Lucky Me!

  38. karen

    I’ve been reading you for…i don’t know, a year maybe? And i’ve never commented. People like me should probably comment more often just to let you know that we appreciate you. So here ya go:
    I like you! Ignore the jerks.

  39. Candace

    I may not always agree with everything you’ve said, or everything you’ve done, but y’know what? Those people are petty and cruel and downright mean. It’s the anonymity of the internet that lets their true light shine through, and you shouldn’t pay one mote of attention to them.

  40. JenniferB

    I think I am going to give everyone I know a can of bean dip for Christmas — think of the love I will be sharing with them, and with luck one of my relatives will drive through alabama to visit and toot on her as she passes through. 😉 Yea for beans!
    Love your honesty and the wonderful way you share with us!

  41. dalgal

    Awww Y. I’m sorry you have to read crap from some people. Its a sad fact of life that there are people out there that thrive off of spreading negativity. Mean people suck. Don’t give them the satisfaction of knowing they get to you. The rest of us love you and if some don’t – they can move on down the road.

  42. ashleystravel

    Durn those stupid people. Haters are every where because they don’t have anything and anyone in their own lives that they can blog about. Stinks to be them.
    Luckily we have you and all of your great posts. Put Christine on your spam list so you never have to read her junk again. And then you can keep writing of all of us!

  43. Tammy

    Hmmmm. I have never had Bean Dip (I know, a life half lived) and so far, I have not met a Christine that I like. I might be biased, since I have met MANY Christine’s I can’t STAND, but perhaps your nasty commenter needs to blow some bean dip out her nose?

  44. melissa

    Well, I really love your blog. I don’t have my own blog ( although I want to start one… i do!) but I enjoy reading a handful of bloggers. I wouldn’t wast my time reading and/or commenting on something I didn’t. Keep doing a WONDERFUL job. There are MANY of us out here who adore you and your bean dip!

  45. K

    Just remember how miserable the people who leave nasty comments must be. Be so happy that you are not them and let them dwell in their misery of their so called life. I love your blog, I love your posts, you are awesome. You go with your bean dip girlfriend!!!!

  46. Tina

    Love your blog!!!! Hopefully the haters realize that one day they are going to be called to own up to their actions in front of the Lord. They think they are anonymous now, but right in front of them will be all their negative comments and things they have done and the will have to answer to God himself. They think they have gotten away with it, but they haven’t gotten away with anything. Believe me, they will have to own what they have done. There will be no hiding. Keep blogging, I love reading your blog.

  47. Verna

    My dear young friend, I read your blog and can once again be young with small kids. I am 77 and have only one son and several cousins left in my family. All of them live long distances from me. Visiting you here substitutes for the family I miss. I have never commented before, but I want to say reading your stories gives me joy. I have a few blogs that I read and so I have “friends” who don’t even know me! God bless you and your family.
    Verna (Oregon)

  48. patois

    I have to come out of the closet here — and risk the wrath of many — when I say I hate bean dip. You, however, I adore. I’m really sorry the assholes came out.

  49. Cindy

    Y,
    I check your blog every day — because it speaks to my heart. And just so you know, I’m honestly amazed by your courage. You are so honest and open and you trust all of us to not hurt you when you expose your vulnerable side. I don’t have the words to express how angry I am at the people who throw barbs, but I believe — truly believe that they are hurting and stunted. That doesn’t excuse them, just makes them easier for me to dismiss.
    I hope you keep writing. I hope it helps to know that you lift many of us up.

  50. diane

    de-lurking :*)
    Heck, I’m not even sure how I found your blog (seriously!) but I’ve been reading for quite some time. Having said that, I LOVE your photos and greatly enjoy reading your blog as well! You just exude personality plus and have such an entertaining style of writing. Your daughter is absolutely gorgeous, that lil’ spitfire personality and beautiful face! Hmmmm…running out of compliments here. I’ll just say I think you ROCK!
    Hope you find the location of your admirer and can send her a huge batch of spoiled dip for Christmas ;*)
    ~a birthmom in reunion (possibly I found your blog via an adoption blog ????)

  51. Ms. Hodge

    I’m constantly amazed at how disgusting people can be to others, especially with the anonymity offered by the internet.
    Sorry you have to go through that shite, especially on such a touching post dealing with a tender issue.

  52. Stella

    Wow, that really bites. I’ve been lurking for a while, thoroughly enjoying your posts. My grandmother died around the time your grandfather did, and I can strongly identify with what you’ve been through. I also know the feeling of people known and unknown shredding your writing and casting nasty personal aspersions. It gives some kind of Pavlovian conditioning to blogging which makes it hard to write. Please keep writing.

  53. Camilla

    People are so stunningly awful sometimes, i find that kind of thing really hard to deal with – i think you’re awesome for being able to get through it, to stand strong and keep blogging. And as another lurker here, i really appreciate your blog, i love seeing your photos and reading about your family and awesome little daughter. I don’t have much in common with you really (i’m single, in the UK, etc) but i share your sense of humour and i admire your personality!
    So i’m delurking to show a little support i guess.
    And just as an idea… you could always think about perhaps only allowing comments from approved commenters, whose emails you have approved? I don’t know if you can do that, and i know it cuts out some of the public availability of the site, but you should look after yourself first, you know?
    I’ll quit rabbiting now… 😛

  54. Shelly

    Y……I read your blog on a daily basis. I have never commented before (sorry for that), but I really, really, really enjoy reading!! Matter-of-fact I get bummed right out if you don’t blog for days.
    Don’t listen to negative people…..they are negative because they don’t have anything good going on in their life so they want the rest of the world to be down right miserable with them. Screw them!!
    Keep doing what your doing. As you can see from most of these comments…….you are loved for what you do!!

  55. AlwaysCurious

    Okay so not to get all mom-on-her-5th-grader on you… but people are just jealous!
    I really think that most mean comments come from jealousy. They are miserable unhappy people with miserable unhappy lives, and they look at your life with a good marriage and 3 good children and they need to tear you down to build themselves up. They are pathetic.
    And you rock.

  56. Juju

    Don’t let the idiots get to you. Some people have nothing better to do with their sad lives than insult strangers. The people who read this blog for the right reasons will still be here when the idiots have moved on elsewhere.

  57. Mindy

    The world is full of stupid people and the internet is a breeding ground for negative anonoymous comments. I wonder how many of those people would have been slapped by their mamas if they had said those mean things face to face to someone.
    I’m glad you haven’t given up on your blog just yet. I, for one, have been an avid reader for awhile now and I adore your family and love to read your thoughts. Here’s hoping that you find the drive to blog on a regular basis again. The nice people of the internet demand it! 🙂

  58. stpaulslim

    I just love the anonymous trashing. It’s one of the main drawbacks of this wonderful tool of the internet: people say stuff they’d be afraid of saying face to face–which is both a good and bad thing. Mostly bad though. Don’t let them grind you down.

  59. the dip

    Christine secretly loves me- we are lovers. The things we do with bean dip would amaze you. She’s just frontin’ because she’s ashamed to admit she uses me for lube.

  60. Michelle

    I look at it this way… I’m paying the for the hosting, Ima talk about whatever I damn well please, no matter how boring. And it usually is. Dude, I only have like four readers but I don’t care, I still do it.
    I see your point about the crazies though. Stalkers are just not cool. Neither are asshole commenters, and I can’t believe some of the ones you posted! Stupid people, they’re everywhere.

  61. Al

    I would be very sad if you stopped posting. I cannot believe the lenghts assholes will go to in order to hurt others to make themselves feel better about their pathetic lives. Chin up!

  62. amber of theambershow

    Please don’t let the deeply retarded people squash your voice. That’s like being a huge strong guy being scared of an ant.
    Y, that’s stupid.
    I’m sorry your sad and offended. I’m sad and offended, too, for you. Because I love your writing, and it means the world to me. So…
    GET OVER IT! Move on. For every asswipe out there yammering, you’ll have a thousand people cheering you on. I’m one of them. 🙂

  63. AA

    Damn, girl, I love your life too! I love reading about it. Please don’t stop. I haven’t read the other comments yet, but I want to say how much I admire you- your life, your marriage and your writing.
    And the sense of humor! Too good! The bean dip comeback to ugly commenter cracked me totally up.

  64. hotpinksox

    Some people are just hateful. And those people will never be happy for those who are happy with themselves like you are. I love reading your blog. I laugh, I cry, I relate. Don’t let the meanies out there get you down.

  65. Tammy

    Wow. Whenever I hear of people being that hateful, the only thing I can usually think of is how miserable and pitiful their existence must be for them to state such nasty things.
    I think GGC put it most eloquently not too long ago when someone didn’t like something she had to say … if you don’t like it, get the fuck off of my lawn.
    Seriously? If you don’t like something people, just stop reading it. How hard is it?

  66. vertyeux

    Hey Y!
    Though I hardly ever leave comments (usually someone has beaten me to the punch comment-wise, and I don’t like being redundant) I WILL say that your blog is usually the first one I read every day, and I always look forward to your posts.
    I also agree that you should get a bean-dip themed template.
    You rock! Have a great day.

  67. Tiffany

    You cracked me up with your bean dip comment to the troll who leaves you messages. I love it! Keep doing what you do girl…shake off the haters. You have a beautiful family…..and you see the true beauty of bean dip! As the wife of a Frito Lay man we thank you. lol! You rock!

  68. DateWithKate

    I do not understand why people who hate what they are reading continue to read it. It’s not like they are being forced to read. I got married earlier this year and had a wedding blog that I had to put on private due to all the mean comments I was receiving from people who evidently hate weddings but still read about them and bitch. Your blog rocks, tell your stories and ignore the people who – I think – are just jealous.

  69. Rita Arens

    I’m sorry you had the haters, Y, but I think your writing has been good for you. I’ve read as you’ve accepted a lot about yourself, just as I’ve done the same for me. It’s worth it.

  70. Suburban Turmoil

    Ha ha! Christine is OUTED as a BEAN DIP HATER! HAAAA!
    Let’s get real. You blog so that you have an excuse to go to BLOGHER once a year and giggle with me at 2am!! Right? Right?!
    Oh. And also for the Wiis.
    MORE BEAN DIP, PLEASE.
    xxoo

  71. Chelle

    Wow, that’s sad that there are so many mean people in the world. I’m sorry they came and were mean to you. Mean people suck.
    You are a good writer and you enjoy doing it, so don’t let them get you down. There is so much good and beauty in simple and ordinary. It takes vision and wisdom to see that, be happy that you have both!
    take care 🙂

  72. So Cal Carol

    I’m fat. I have 2 sons & 1 daughter. I have been married for 27 years. I have lost loved ones. I wish I could take pictures like you. I love your blog. I think the old saying “opinions are like assholes, everyones got one” applies to your mean spirited commentors. You can tell them from the rest of us by their really BIG assholes and their worthless comments. Love you, Love your blog.

  73. Norma

    Y I love your posts and I check in everyday at least once to see if you’ve posted! Please don’t stop. As far as those jerky posters and I don’t know if this is exactly what has happened to you but I heard a story on a radio news show talking about a group of posters whose “job” is to go to peoples site and post horrible, mean posts just to get a rise out of the blogger or their commentors. Once they’ve destroyed what you’ve done they go to the next guy. A pitiful way of life isn’t it?

  74. DJ

    Ya’ gotta wonder at the time people seem to have on their hands that they would leave such nasty comments. I’m sorry that some people suck but there are a lot of us who love your blog and have found a way to tolerate your love of bean dip. 🙂

  75. Christine

    I will just post this here in your comments, since you will just put any e-mail I write in your posts so that your lemming readers will feed you the attention that your low self esteem needs. I don’t say things to you that you haven’t already said to yourself and the whole world on your blog. You write “I’m fat and lame and a dork and stupid” so you must be, right? I keep reading because it has been a neverending cycle of “I’m fat” I’m going to lose weight….”im fat”….I’m going to lose weight. So and so said that I’m stupid, so and so said I’m a renter? I mean, come on…whine whine whine and cry. I’m just along for the ride to see where the hell your low self-esteem train is going. You piss and moan about everything negative that has been said to you, but it is all true. Because, you are fat, lame, stupid, and a renter…right?
    I know it kills you inside when people say those things to you because if it didn’t, you wouldn’t have to post comfort seeking posts on your blog.
    No amount of lame bean dip jokes will change anything, and I do think your husband is ugly. Just my opinion. (and before any of you lemmings start getting your panties in a wad, I know she has hashimotos…)

  76. Susan

    It sucks that people are so jealous of you, and so insecure and miserable, that they try to bring a complete stranger (YOU) down with them. What pathetic existences they have.
    Fuck ’em, Y. I know it’s easier said than done, but just remember that they’re jealous, insecure and miserable and trying to feel better about themselves by putting you down.
    LOSERS.

  77. mandy

    It’s tough to imagine those people are real, you know? But hey, they are the same people who are mean in traffic, like the car or the computer somehow hides their identity and gives the cover to do or say weird or mean stuff. Someone sees ’em, they’ll have to answer for it one day.

  78. Paula

    I love your blog and have been reading it for a while. Especially when you blogged about your thyroid issues, it made me feel that I wasnt alone, because I have bad issues with my thyroid also.
    As for the haters, if it makes them happy, let them keep hatin. Maybe if they ate the bean dip they’d be happier!

  79. Brandy

    I check for a new blog from you every day. I may lurk most the time, but I still read. I’m just shy and it’s hard to put myself out there to comment. I love your blog, don’t let the trolls take away your enjoyment for your blog. And as for your trolls? My Mom taught me that if you don’t have anything nice to say DON”T say anything at all. Seems other mother’s forgot to teach their kids that little piece of wisdom.

  80. Liz

    It’s the assholes that ruin everything for the rest of us. I hope you’ll continue to blog, because you’re one of my favorites.

  81. mickey

    Hey, Christine, if you don’t like Y’s blog, Y’s husband, or anything else about Y and her life, allow me to make a suggestion. QUIT READING HER BLOG! YOU won’t have to see/deal with things that you don’t like, WE won’t have to read your nastiness, and EVERYONE wins.
    Failing that, may I suggest you go F— yourself? Preferably while taking a long walk off a short pier.

  82. Kelley

    Ten thousand would scare the bejebus outta me too!
    I think that Christine secretly loves the dip, she craves the dip, she smears the dip all over her body and lets her dog lick it off.
    And I bet there are pics of it on the internet.
    As hard as it is, you need to ignore the haters. Jealousy babe, plain and simple.

  83. Chris

    Remember, there is no such thing as mean spirited, vapid, insipid, low rent commenters, just mean spirited, vapid, insipid, low rent comments.
    Rather than bringing it on people, let’s bring it off.

  84. Y

    Christine,
    I’m not going to address the things you said about me. It’s nothing you haven’t said before. Whatever. But, I am going to address what you said about my husband. You think he’s ugly. You’re entitled to your opinion. But I promise you, if you spent a day with him and saw the kindness, love, patience and understanding with which he treats our children. Or if you could experience if only for a minute the way that he uses his body and his strong, yet gentle hands to please every part of a woman’s body, you would think he was the most beautiful, sexiest man on the face of this earth.
    Now, I most definitely believe in free speech and that people should be able to speak their minds here, whether they agree with me or not. I’m SO not down with censoring comments. HOWEVER, I’m not going to allow you to be an asshole to me or my husband any longer. From this point forward, if you want to post here, you better come up with something better than YOU’RE FAT AND YOUR HUSBAND IS UGLY or I will delete your comment.

  85. Stephanie B.

    There are some nutty shitheads out there. I hope you never let them stop you from doing what you what to do.

  86. Amy M

    Y – we love you. we love your convos and stories. it’s why we’re here. bump everyone else who is so miserable with their own pathetic existence that their goal in life is to tear down everyone else that isn’t afraid to share themselves with the rest of us. A couple of other bloggers that I love usually close their comments on posts that they think might get a crappy reaction. although…there’s no way i’d have thought the latest convo would have provoked such hatred. i guess i’m back to my original thought after rambling…keep doing what you do and those of us that love you will still be here and be louder than all the negative jerks!

  87. Mo

    I love bean dip and I like your blog! Keep telling your stories—you’re a good writer and I like popping by to see what you have to say each day.
    Screw the trolls. I don’t understand why they put out so much energy taking other people down. They’re miserable and jealous of what you have—a wonderful family, with a husband who loves you.
    CHRISTINE: If you’re reading these comments: Get a fucking life. If you don’t like what you’re reading, go away. Pretty simple.

  88. jessica

    People like Christine allow everyone else to see who they truly are in their vindictive comments. Anyone who feels the need to make unnecessarily mean comments toward someone they don’t even know leads the rest of the world to one of two conclusions.
    1. Her parents never taught her the morals and values that a human being should be instilled with. Which makes them pretty horrible parents who didn’t deserve children.
    2. Her parents DID work their asses off to make sure she turned out to be a good person… and they are unbelievably disappointed in the outcome. (of course, if they aren’t disappointed, it would be because they have never seen the disgusting person that she really is.)
    Any decent, normal person who has a life worth living would not read blogs that really didn’t interest them, let alone take the time and energy to leave horrid comments on them. This tells me that either Christine has such a shitty life that she feels the need to spread it around by trying to shit on a stranger’s blog, or she has no life what-so-ever and has nothing better to do.
    Either way, she’s not worth the air she breaths and will soon f**k herself if left to her own vices.
    Also, in regard to Christine not being attracted to your husband… that would be because she feels that in order for a man to be worth it, they have to look like Brad Pitt (incidentally, I do not find Mr. Pitt attractive at all) and she doesn’t care about the man he actually is. All that matters to her is the eye candy… which means she will NEVER have a REAL man. But then again, people like her never do find REAL love… and they don’t care.
    Y, you’re beautiful with or without the weight. I think you are more beautiful now than you were even back when you were a skinny minny. And your husband… well I can only hope to find someone so wonderful someday. In addition, you both should be so proud of not only who the two of you are as adults and parents, but also be immensely proud of the three amazing children that the two of you are raising. Those three children have so much love, spirit and compassion than any that I have ever met in real life… and I only know you and yours from the internet.
    So, my suggestion is to leave Christine and any other deadweight that appears on your blog to hang themselves. They don’t deserve even the life they have been given and that will show when it is over. Be thankful that you and your family are the complete opposite of those people and THAT is a blessing.

  89. baseballmom

    Dude, beandip rocks. Fuck Christine, she obviously wants a lesbian love affair with you, or she wouldn’t keep reading and commenting. Maybe she wants a threesome with you guys? Whatev. Get a life Christine-come on over to my blog and comment some-actually, I think you already did about my Obama comments on here before. Nevermind-I forgot, you’re Y’s stalker.

  90. Jamie

    Dear Christine,
    Anyone who posts comments at 10 something in the morning is either:
    1) not employed
    2) fucking off at work posting instead of working
    3) a SAHM with a LOT of anger at the world
    4) a SAHM who is fucking off at work as in not working at making her home at home
    5) not spending time with her “2” children
    Try not being a nasty troll and don’t worry about Y needing attention. You are doing a great job of grabbing if for yourself. BTW, have you ever been diagnosed with Munchausen by proxy? Because you fit the profile beautifully! How are your 2 kids doing? Anyone sick at your house? Need some more rat poision? Or just want to spew it verbally?

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