Believe me~I have the same fears myself.

My step mom always said boys are easier... but, think of it this way: Shopping partner.

I stayed sick my entire pregnancy with my daughter after having a breeze time with my son so I think it is a girl. And my girl is more boy than my boy ever thought of being so don't freak about it. I too freaked about having a girll bug I guarantee you will be a good mom no matter what the sex.

Umm, that would be "girl but" - damn fingers!

Here in UK, most couples prefer to wait til the ickle baby is born.

Is it normal in USA to know the sex of your unborn child?

Raising a girl really isn't any different than raising a boy. I've been blessed with one of each. It tends to fall into place and then one day you'll look back and wonder why you even had all the questions and worries about it. Once you see that face, everything changes. :)

Andy, I'd say it's about 50/50 - some parents want to know, some don't - and I know an even number of both, in the bazillion people I know who are pregnant right now.

But, once you've already had a couple of kids, it seems like the practical thing to do - then you know whether you need to buy girlie thing or boyish things!

And Yvonne - trust me - my mother and I have had a terrible relationship for years - and yet Kelsey and I are incredibly close. I have a terrible body image, but it has transformed into me guiding her to eat better, exercise, and stay in shape. Daughter's are a good thing. Plus, she'll have a dad and two big brothers to scare the boys away. Kelsey doesn't have that!

You've not mentioned the possibility of having the best of BOTH worlds.....A son who's gay!

No vagina problems, and you can still braid his hair pretty.
Although, I doubt your parents will be too good with it.

I've got both.
I love my son. I love him dearly.
But my 4 year old daughter? She's my best friend. Literally.

Yvonne, don't forget that before you did such a damned good job of raising two young sons, you didn't know how to raise one of them, either. I think that if you have a girl, you'll do just fine. Probably a hell of a lot better than most people. Your boys are living proof of that. Don't worry about it too much.

You know, I worried about the same thing... OH MY GOD! I'd be raising another me. Does the world really need another one of ME?!?

But now that my son is 8? I realized I did raise a me anyway. Except WAY more ornery... Damned testosterone.

You better not post until you tell me at the airport! We have to have that cheesy, girly moment when we giggle like morons and jump up and down holding hands. Then we have to stop and get me a hot dog.

Airport hot dogs, and girly enthusiasm.
What can be better than that!?

i'm going with girl too.

yvonne, i have the exact same concerns as you do. the only advice i can give is do exactly the opposite your mother did, instill in her all the things you wish you had, and make sure she has confidence up the wazoo.

when it's my turn, i'm going to instill in her that boys are icky and and education and travel are of the utmost importance. boys can make or break a girl/woman and she doesn't need that shit. oh, if i could turn back time.

oh god, did i just quote a cher song? someone kill me.

You shouldn't be having babies. You're crazy and you're going to fuck up its life even if it's a boy.

YES!

I hope it's a girl.

Everybody is pregnant with girls right now, and soon, our little chickas shall rule the earth. :D

all that stuff is pretty scarey...but I think of the past weekend I had with my 10yr old daughter. Buying her a dress for her first girl/boy Valentine's party...painting her nails and toenails...fixing her hair...letting her wear makeup lol. I wouldnt trade that stuff for anything. Of course I do love ridin the fourwheeler with my son haha

Yeah, I totally understand what you mean. I just had my first, and I was totally freaked out about messing up her life. I didn't know what to say when I was pregnant, since I too, had a pretty messed up childhood, with a mom who would send me to bed with the words: "I hate your guts" on a regular basis. I still worry, because the baby part has been easy so far. Not sure what I am going to do yet once she is at the age where all of that started with my mom. I am 27 now, and we still fight constantly, and still go months without speaking.

Hoping I can be a better mom to her than my mom was to myself. Good luck, Yvonne.

-H

ok, first, don't listen to kdsjgj up there cause he's just a dick ..

second .. don't worry about it! easier said than done, i know but i've been exactly where you are. i had/still have a HORRIBLE relationship with my mom and i'm totally not girlie, but my daughter did so much for me. We have a great relationship and she brings out a girlie side in me that i've never had. you're bond will probably be different than the boys but it will be special beyond your wildest dreams. i've learned so many things about myself through my daughter and turned into such a better person because of it. have faith, it'll all work out! *hugs*

my mom had a sucky relationship with her mother, ours was better and my daughter's and mine is better than that :) if she has a daughter? she'll be a goddess of a mom!
just like you.

Yvonne - My mother and my grandmother had a very strained relationship growing up. My mother suffered with depression, my grandmother told her it was God testing her, yadda yadda religious repression yadda yadda.
I am an only child, and I honestly have the best mother ever- affectionate, understanding, and incredibly incredibly supportive. Don't worry about your relationship with your mother affecting that with a possible daughter. It will only make you want to do better, and that's what you'll do.

When my daughter was born nearly 6 years ago, I shared your concerns. I've always fought my weight, self-image, my mother, battled depression on a daily basis, and had only been sober for a year when Za came into the world. I didn't think there was any way I could keep from screwing her up completely. Now, though, I realize that my struggles are what make me a good mom. I'm sure you'll find the same thing.

Besides, you'll have at least a year or two before the girly attitude starts to rear its ugly head!

My thoughts would have to be like djmofo..Do the opposite as your mother did. Believe alot of people that are talking here, it really does come naturally as far as what to do with girls. Just give "baby" lots of love and affection throughout "his/her" whole lifealong with your other boys and things will work themselves out. My only advice would have to be : Be the mother, Not the friend!

Ohmigosh! You are too funny! You just perfectly described my daughter and me... and the sassy attitude! UG. And here I thought I wanted another girl with baby #3.... thank goodness some higher power knew better and gave me the boy! heh

Good luck! Whatever baby is, it will all work out!