You want I should break her legs?

Because she sounds like a real ho-bag.

That is jacked in a big way. You need to have words with her and the principal.

I had a science teacher in Jr High that was a total hole. Me and my lab parter would do the same work and write the same answers but he'd mark mine wrong.

We did not know way back then that my little brother had an attention deficit disorder. It wasn't a big thing to test for when we were kids. Jim had trouble remembering to bring a pencil to class. He brought everything else, but ALWAYS forgot a pencil. The majority of his teachers took it in stride and had extra pencils he and other students could use. One teacher, though, in trying to make Jim "responsible" would constantly harangue him about him forgetting to bring a pencil to class. This teacher threw pencils at him, made him stand in a corner, wouldn't let him take a test if he didn't have a pencil, and would send him to counseling. When my parents finally got wind of the whole situation, my dad went ballistic. He took Jim out of school. Two years later, on his own, Jim got his GED. Now in his 30's, he STILL cannot remember to bring a pencil anywhere, so now he's loaded his car with pens and pencils, just in case. lol

OMG. I can relate. Some teachers are a mockery to the word they represent. I had a teacher for my then 9 year old last year that MADE her sit in the back of the class even though she couldn't see the board because, "Your parents need to go get you new glasses". Well excuse ME bitch, but I'm on disability/early maternity leave and have mouths to feed, not to mention my daughters glasses were only about 6 months old. And, according to my duaghter, TWO empty desks in the front row. My husband had to go get ghetto on her ass. Funny how things change when a parent shows up at a classroom looking pissed. Haley was ushered to the front row while he stood there. I know our state is hard pressed financially, and that teachers are a "commodity". But for fucks sake....be a BIT selective when putting adults in charge of our children's education? What kind of message are these two teachers sending? That its ok to be a bitch? That its ok to be nosey, assumptive and just plain RUDE?

Makes me want to go get a college degree and a teaching cert.

Bah.

When I was in second grade my math teacher kept me after school to *make me understand math* as she so called it. I did this for about 3 weeks, without telling my mom about it. Until one day my mom had the day off, I got home late from school and she wondered what was wrong, I had to tell her what was going on. Girl she went all *LATINA* up in there. We could hear my mom yelling ALL through the school. In english and in spanish. god it was hilarious. lol
I got transferred out of her class that same day.

Later I found out she was picking on me because one of my aunts stole her boyfriend. Bitch.

She ought to teach by example. If she's looking for responsible kids, a little responsible teaching might be in order.... sigh. What a shame he has a rotten teacher for his first Middle School experience. I feel for ya, stick to your 'latin' guns! We had a crappy teacher last year... and I was too soft on her, although she probably felt differently. Your taxes pay their salary... so get your money's worth!!!

Yvonne, I just wanted to say that I'm a teacher, and I find what your son's teacher is doing to be reprehensible. I mean yes, kids need to be responsible for themselves-- but it is none of her business whether you are going to get a tutor rather than make him get extra help from someone who obviously already has something against him?
You need to have a meeting with her. Soon.

Trying to offer a different perspective here.

In middle school, and I think I remember this is Andrew's first year of middle school, teachers have up to as many as 135 students a day (that's how many I have this year). I can't begin to tell you how difficult it is to keep track of the many students who are out due to illnesses, family vacations, suspensions, etc. There are days that I'll have up to 15 kids out for different reasons, for differing lengths of time.

In our district, the No Child Left Behind Act has taken over in a major way. The teachers are responsible for making sure that literally no child is left behind in their understanding of material. Whatever we need to do, it must be done; testing scores must be raised, students must perform at an optimum level, and basically teaching has been turned into nearly a chore than a joy that it used to be, all due to a data-driven educational base. Trust me when I tell you that for 28 years that I have been teaching I have enjoyed my 8th graders immensely; however, with the incredible clerical demands that have been placed on teachers lately, it has become nearly impossible to personalize my job and it's more of a position where I do nothing but test, test, retest, and test some more.

I try to personally speak to parents on the phone when an issue arises. I don't care for notes or email because when you are dealing with someone's child, there is no issue more personal and more sensitive where written information can easily be misconstrued. A parent can easily be given the wrong impression with something written; by the same token, a teacher can feel victimized and cornered when 37 different notes are coming in for different reasons on different kids. A phone call by a teacher to a parent can work a world of wonders to help a parent understand what the problem is. You sound like an involved and concerned parent, Yvonne. Unfortunately, we have to deal with so many who are intrusive or just plain negligent.

I'm a parent and a teacher. Not passing any kind of judgment on your situation, even though Ive already said you sound like a completely involved and caring parent(s). Just offering a different perspective on the nuttiness that is middle school.

i feel for him, i really do. i suck at math and had some teachers go all psycho on me as well.

tutoring can be a good thing. do you have sylvan learning centers there? they identify what the core problem is and go from there. i had a tutor and that helped, but it didn't solve my underlying problem (that I'm an idiot in math.)

hope he gets things together! He's lucky to have ya as his mama!

Ok first, tell the fucking cunt how to speak english. 'Andrew ask for no work'. What's next? "Me so horney?

Second, there is a learning disability for math, just like there is one for reading (Dyscalculia). You might want to check into/test for that.

Third, that fucking cunt (key words of the day) has no right to tell you that you can't look for outside work. You are paying for outside help because she sucks more than a $5 hooker in Vegas.

Uggghhh I hate fuckers like this. I too have a math learning disorder and not one teacher helped me out but instead made it worse. So fuck them bitches.

Oh by the way, talking about fuckweed cunt teachers that embarass a student and a parent's reaction...

When I was in 5th grade I had a teacher that wouldn't let me use the little girl's room to change my pad (I know, TMI). I had doc/parents' notes explaining that I had menstruation problems and had to use the ladies room when I needed too. The teacher said no and instead made me "leak" all over my skirt and stand IN FRONT of the class. The boys were mortified and made fun of me. I went crying home.

Next day good ol dad (this is where his assholiness came in handy) showed up and told me to wait outside. All I know is that I saw the teacher leave in tears and shaking and I could go to the ladies room all I wanted after that.

Same with the male gym teacher that punched me in the stomach in 4th grade all because I couldn't do a summersault properly. Dad found out and well, I didn't see the gym teacher for a few weeks.

Now, with these experiences I can't wait to have kids and have some fuckweed teacher just TRY to mess with them.

I think your being upset with this is totally justified. It was really wrong and frankly immature of her to humiliate him in front of the class and then deny him the work because he didn't ASK for it. You're right, it IS her job to help him out and not to make him feel like a criminal for it.

Keep us updated, and go Latina!

I posted this anecdote on another blog I love in response to another shitty teacher story, but since it's my anecdote, I guess I can tell it as many times as I want. So here it is again, because it's so gosh-durned topical:

When I was in the 10th grade, I was sitting in a class one day and our teacher started to tell us an anecdote about someone she knew. I don't even remember what the point of her story was, but the following is burned into my brain: at one point the teacher is describing a girl in her story as "not fat, but not skinny, either...sort of like..." and at this point SHE IS SCANNING THE ROOM TO FIND A GIRL IN OUR CLASS WHO FITS THAT DESCRIPTION. I recall literally shrinking down in my chair in the hopes that she would not hold *me* aloft as the example of "not skinny". Teacher chose another girl who...surprise, surprise...went on in the next year to become wildly anorexic. Crappy teachers *scare* me. They have no idea how easily their words can have lasting consequences for children.

I suppose it's a good thing I'm planning to homeschool because I would surely go apeshit on any hapless teacher who humiliated my kid. And djmofo's dad sounds like my kinda parent. I say give this idiotic teacher a swipe from your mama-bear paw. :)

Yvonne, I'm with Vickie...talk to her in person and express your concerns with regards to her behavior in front of the other students. As a teacher myself, talking face to face with a parent helps to clear the air and any misunderstandings (however I don't think you're dealing with a misunderstanding... more like a teacher busting a Bitchfest on her students). Remember you want Andrew's experience to be as positive as possible especially during this crucial and complicated middle school years(your involvement is key). You have made your attempts to be cordial with letters and email but she is obviously not understanding! Talk to her in person if that doesn't work then go LATINA on her.... :)or threaten to go to the school board that always freaks out our principal!

The thing that bothers me the most is, why didn't she tell YOU that she offered tutoring after school? Obviously he's having trouble if his grades are slipping. Obviously, as his teacher she should have recognized that he was failing and had a conference with you and offered her FREE help.
She is of no help to him at all, if she's making an 11 year old child, responsible for his own teachings. Is she an idiot? Not many 11 year olds think, "Gee, that last math quiz is going to bring my grade down .18 percent! I need to get a tutor!!"
When I was in school, the teachers that offered tutoring after school sent notes home letting the parent know the child was failing and needed the extra help. Why isn't she pimping out her wonderful FREE help?!
Give her hell, Yvonne! Show her that parents DO care about their children's education!!!

My daughters teacher two years ago, she actually had the gall to tell me and her that her pretty blond hair and blue eyes were not going to get her far in life! I could go on and on about this woman, but I will save you.

Wow, no wonder your son is avoiding her - she sounds like a PILL.

Argh.

I think we all have stories like these. I remember how thankful I was to have parents who stood up for me. I really felt like they had my back. Even after they divorced, if anyone messed with us they showed up together at school Power Parents United. I loved it and felt very safe. You are doing a wonderful thing for him.

My dad used to say, "If this fails to make a change, let me know and we'll send the Dutch Mafia after her."

Which always made me laugh. The Dutch Mafia.

But I offer the same to you. If she doesn't change her ways, the Dutch Mafia will be there in a heartbeat.

M

I got behind in math in 6th grade, and I've never been able to catch up. I got behind because my "teacher" REFUSED to help me after school. Like someone said already, Sylvan is a good place to start if he needs help. I dislike teachers who don't respect their students.

Last year(my SR. year) I had to have my gall bladder taken out right away at the end of the school year. My P.E. teacher went ape shit on me because I had to have it out and he tried to fail me in P.E. because I missed a week of school due to the surgery. P.E. was a required class that I had to pass in order to graduate. I lived on my own, tried to fix it myself but had to have my dad drive 5 hours to where I lived to have a nice talk to with him.I passed and graduated with honors! Some teachers don't get that because THEY get things easily that the students may not.

Go get her hunny! Show her who boss :-)

I realize that I'm the kajillionth person to comment on this, but I can't help it, I'm a teacher.

1.) We learned in school that kids acquire the ability to "learn" math as their brain develops. He's 11. It might take some time. Get him a tutor, but he might need to mature a little bit.

2.) At 11, the teacher should help him out by reminding him that he missed some work. No questions asked. IT IS HER JOB, and you are 100% correct.

3.) Some teachers, when they think that they have full parental support, take many liberties with the children. I've seen it with my own eyes ( as a teacher, it's amazing what other teachers will do in front of you), and I think it is MF'ing appalling. Is there another math class that he can be moved to?

I just hope that he's not too discouraged. That seems to be a big problem with the school systems these days. Teachers are so busy tooting their own horns that they forget that this is somebody else's life. Namely, your son's. She had no right to call him out like that. Children, while they may piss us off to no end (as parents) are still children. Of course, I don't think he's completely blameless (we have 10 and 13 year old boys), but I think this lady should be held accountable for her actions (or lack thereof). You should open a can of whoopass.

I had the math teacher from hell. I never took math again after that, because I struggle so much with it and I didn't want to be humiliated like that again.

My mother is a teacher, and I hear you about the make-up thing. Maybe highschool kids should be responsible for asking for the work, but not an 11 year old. This lady is clearly off her gourd. I'd call the principal, if I were you.

what every happend with this? did you talk to the teacher?