Girl you're shapely but definitely don't look fat to me. Men love curves, so that means your husband loves it. Imagine if you were as thin as a toothpick, I think you look great! Keep up the good work Y.

I agree! You look great. I wish we (and by we I mean most women that I know) could see ourselves the way we really are. I can't tell you how many times I look back at pictures of a time period that I know I wanted to lose weight and think to myself, wow...I actually looked good. But then my wicked head goes and adds "I wish I looked like that now."
What has helped me is to not think of the total that I want to lose. I say I want to lose 5 pounds. Then after I lose that I tell myself I want to lose 5 pounds. That way, it's small goals that make me happy when I achieve them. We gotta help ourselves in every way we can!!!

Dude. You're a lyin' ho. ;) You look 100x BETTER without the fat pants! When I saw you last, I thought, "Man, she looks thinner than her photos." And you DO.

Ditch the fuckin' fat pants and keep wearing hot orange velour, baby. It suits you.

I agree with Kristina. My husband loves to say that men love curves and you have curves in all the right places. (Unlike my curves...they're all confused.)

You look awesome! Also, I love your Bobs!

I want some of those velour pants but I'm too self conscious to buy them. (I want the jacket too.) You look 1345 times better than I do so be proud!!
I'm fat, but still have a flat ass, it just gets wider.

I think you're doing great!

You look great! I agree with the others, you have very nice curves in the right places unlike some peple who just have blobs. (No offense to anyone with blobs!)

WOMAN. Before I even saw the pictures I thought "Well, if you're wearing fat pants, they probably make you look fatter than you are."

And then I saw the pictures.

Throw away those damn fat pants now. As your friend, I demand it. You're lookin' GOOOOOD. And you know I wouldn't tell you if you looked like a big pile of dookie.

Even if there's 45 pounds to go, you wear them very well. That profile shot is CUTE! And at least your curves are in the right place, and not spilling over each other. Weight is a number. Cute is cute is cute. And cute is you!

Sexy is seriously a state of mind. Even when I was 100 pounds overweight, I would walk into a room, and people took notice. I would still flirt with guys, and they responded the way I wanted them to respond. In a good way. It's like my mama always told me when I was growing up: It's all in how you carry yourself, and the level of confidence you exude. If you believe it, other people will too.

You, darling, are adorable!

-H

I really do love you guys.

I feel bad now that I didn't get dressed up for you. That I wore the same thing I slept in and um, didn't even brush my hair.

Next time (because there will BE a next time) I'll actually get dressed! And comb my hair! and MAYBE I'll even put on a little makeup.

Because? I love you.

The truth is...you are HOT. HOT! There are no other words. What's that? Did someone say HOT? Yeah, I know, Y is hot.

So... if you don't mind me asking, how tall are you? Because I'm 5'8" and I look about the same as you do minus the massive boobage and I've never had kids, nonetheless 3.

Wow! I can't get past your spectacular cleavage to see the ass you speak of so negatively. Fan-fucking-tastic, chica!

what size are you? a 14/16 I'm guessing? what I wouldn't give to be that size! woman you look great. embrace your curvas peligrosas!

Well. I guess I should not have been eating a massive chocolate bar while reading, because now I feel pathetic. At one point, you and I were the same weight. Well guess what? I'm still at that friggin' weight! And you? You're kickin' the shit out of the fat!

I see your ass and truthfully, its not the STATE you make it out to be. I think people are definatly harder on themselves, then others are. I agree with the above commenters, you have curves and thats great. Hell, I wish i had curves. I'm just kinda blobby since i had the baby, damn near 3 years ago..... I've lost weight but girl, its hard so i feel ya.

I'm just saying, you look good...no need to fret yourself into depression girl.

Generally I'm anti-velour as a rule, but that color is awesome. And seriously, have you done your measurements? Because I swear that in this side profile pic, compared to your first pre-weight loss profile pic, your thigh looks about 1/3 of the circumference that it used to be.

And holy jamoly, I am jealous of those boobs.

you look curvy WONDERFUL. GOOD curves. Yum curves. I am in awe of the weight you've lost.

Although you may feel you still need to lose 45 pounds (and you know what? IT's what isimportant to you that matters :) you look absolutely fabulous. You look significantly smaller than before, and look at that waist! Look at that hourglass! Vroom vroom!

and I would just like to say that you've inspired me to get my ass back in gear. Seeing these photos helped remind me of how proud I was to lose weight last year and how good it felt to to like the way I look in clothing. Thank you!

i'm agreeing with joelle about the being a lyin ho part. girl. *shakes my head*

*Schwing!* Look how great you look now! That's some serious progress. I am really happy for you. Keep it up but don't turn into a stick, that just isn't sexy.

Ok. Here's the thing. I'm NOT lying.

How much do you think I weigh?

I'm only 5'4"

I STILL weigh 190. And while that's better than 250 (which is what I was when I had Gabby) I SHOULD weigh no more than 150 pounds. Even my DOCTOR has said I need to lose more weight for HEALTH REASONS.

I'm not trying to be skinny. I'm trying to be healthy.

Will you stop calling me a lying ho now? please?

Girl Please. I'm just catching up but I would say you've come a lon gway form where youstarted and look at those curves! Slap some butter on that bun and pass it over heeeyyer!

Lady, you look all curvy and womanly and sexy! I think you should print out all the positive comments you're getting here and read them every f**king day. I'm serious. You are definitely not seeing yourself the way others do, you total hottie! :-)

I'm not gonna lie and say "you look great, you should eat a box of donuts" but i am gonna say that you look damn good. Your face looks so much smaller, and everything about you is just so much more fabulous than it was just a few short months ago. Be proud, and if you like to wear the fat pants, then wear the damn fat pants. It's your body. and you seriously look good. Remember: discipline, not abuse. Be nice to the Y within as your kicking the Y without's butt!

Forreals...burn the fat pants.

sure, i'll stop posting. sorry.

aaaaack. Jenny!

I don't want you to stop posting.

I was saying it in a playful manner (the 'can you stop calling me a lying ho thing)

COME BACK!

Ok, so that profile picture? I know about 80 people have already said it, but dude! That's hot! Seriously, check out the curve that your back makes. That's freaking AWESOME. I mean, yeah, I have a curve that my back makes, but it goes out instead of nice and in like that :) Hahahaha...And I'm not lying when I say that I wish I had the body you have right now. Really.

Congrats..you look great.. :)

wow... you've lost even more weight than i thought when you put on those pants.
WILD APPLAUSE.
Good for you!!!!!!!
keep it up if that's what you're aiming for.

You are doing so goooooooooooood!!!!!!!!!

You have a body so similar to mine, we look TERRIFIC in the bathroom vanity mirror but full length ones are just scary!! Cute face, nice rack, good arms....and then I balloon out into this...this...expansive thing. The hips butt and thighs are the hardest I think, but you'll get there!

Geeze....if I was that 'fat' I'd be thrilled. Really! I would!

Honestly Yvonne, you're incredibley hard on yourself. Look how far you've come since Gabby's birth. I think you look fabulous!

So quite beating yourself up or I'll be forced to come down there and beat it out of you!

Honestly, you have to realize that it took a while to get the weight on...it also takes time to take it off.

A slow and steady weight loss is SO much better than dropping it fast.
It has a much better chance of staying off if it comes off slowly.

I think we as Americans expect everything to be FAST but some things aren't fast.

Just keep it up.

You have to be able to see the progress and feel great about it!

Ok. Can I be blunt? To the point? Direct? I sent you baby girl clothes so I am taking advantage of that internet intimacy....

(Remember...I've recently lost over 35 pounds since January and I still have about 15 pounds to go so I'm not a skinny minny giving you a hard time)

1. You look way better in clothes that fit you. If you don't want to have snugger fitting clothes on because you might be insecure that you don't have a figure like a Victoria's Secret model (and who does, that's why THEY are models and WE are not and they still airbrush just so you know), get used to wearing more form fitting attire because that's what you should be wearing for the love of God. Embrace not looking enormous because even though you still want to lose weight, you do not look grossly obese. Enjoy it. It will give you motivation.

2. Just lose the weight dammit. Sacrafice, suck it up, exercise, be hungry, hate every damn minute of it and then be done with it.

Then you'll be happy with how you look.

The end.

OMG seriously yvonne, you look fabulous. and i know everyone says it and you think we're just being nice and all but believe me, i'm not that nice a person. if i thought you didn't look amazing i probably wouldn't tell you, i would just not comment. i would certainly not lie and tell you how AMAZING you look. and i will say it again: i'm a looser, i "gave up" after 12 pounds and last night shoved M&Ms in my face. so every morning the same big ass is greeting me... but you're an inspiration and i wanna get back on track. especially after seeing these pictures. man, you look GREAT!

ok, Your 5'4 at 190 pounds.
I am 5'3 at 170 pounds.
You look much better than i do.

I am thinking that you are simply built really well with boobs and curves. I have no boobs and no cruves.......

You have a nice figure, i am envious.
I wish i had boobs and curves too!!!

Oh, and do know that my doc told me to get down to that 135-140 mark where the chart said i needed to be, and when i did, i looked sick, so i think you shouldnt go all the way down to 150. Maybe 165-170 is good for you. Hell, I think you look great Now!

You look great! You know what I love? You look sexy... I am 5'7" and 180, but I am so self-concious that I wear huge baggy clothes all the time to cover myself up. The fat pants? I wear them EVERY DAY.

I wanna be sexy, too.... :(

Seriously though, every time you post a picture you look better.

You really are doing great girl! Keep it up. So what if it is taking longer than you want! You are doing it. You have more chance of keeping it off that way too. I just started WW today. I want to lose about 70 lbs. And my baby is 10 years old lol. I would say 15 months is not bad!

Hey! You have a waist! I WANT A WAIST! *crying* While I'm curvy...my curves aren't like THAT...does a huge fat roll count as a curve? BWAHAHAHA. You look great now!! And if you want to lose more weight, there's nothing wrong with that either. It's totally okay to say "Hey, I've come a long way, but I still wanna go further." GO Y!

You are doing so well! Stop beating yourself up! Whenever you need a boost, email me. I've lost 32 pounds, took me 16 months and I still have 8 to go. We can do it, baby. I know it.

I think you're looking great. I know you want to lose more and that's okay too but don't sell yourself short...you are nowhere NEAR a fat lady. NOWHERE.

I just started points again. I have paid WW enough, I can do this by myself for now. Anyway, I wanted to tell you you were an inspiration for that.

I think you look fantastic. Having struggled with my own weight for years, i know how hard it is to lose - i'm really proud of you!

wow i think u look great!!!

Sweetie I think you look great and are a real inspiration.

you look pretty great to me. and you inspired me to stick with ww.

you know, heres the thing, on that post above where comments are disabled, you actuallly wrote a post commenting on the fact that your bothered by SOME people who are commenting on what THEY perceive as somebody being too hard on themselves. I mean, theres some serious thing going on here. You ARE hard on yourself or you wouldnt be constantly commenting about your ass being fat, or your weight being huge, or your this thing not being better, or that hting not being less this, and so on, then somebody tellls you your being hard on yourself and you write a whole another post describing how THAt makes you feel bad because people aren't reading you right. Its getting to be like your almost controling what people are saying. you complain that you cant do anything right or say anything right but you turn right around and make people feel like THEY cant express themselves without you having to correct them. And you do that a lot. And seriously? its majorily annoying. You have a hell oif a lot more than so many people have on this earth. you have a man who you admit loves you despite everything, you have hte love of three children who would kill for you, you have a family that most people would die for, but it doesnt matter if two, twenty, 200, or the entire planet tells yoiu that; you have to complain about something and if it isnt the weight its the fact that you werent picked to be a good kid in school and that brings back how you arent good enough at anything (your words). People are going to get really tired of trying to make you feel better. Or maybe theyre not. who knows. get a grip like somebody said in the previous post and just DO something positive about what you are feeling and stick to it.

I don't write things because I want people to make me feel better!! I'm writing to express myself.

Y,
Sometimes it is healthy and healing to cry. Maybe this blog helps you let things out that you would have stiffeled. Try to think that you are letting out the old, negative and letting in then new positive you....
Just a thought

You are an inspiration, beautiful, and LOVED!

oh please, of course you do. If you did it just to express yourself then comments would be disabled all the time.

Im not saying thats a terrible thing. Im saying that you DO make comments about what people have said and claim they have misunderstood you. If you dont want to be misunderstood, even though people are just expressing themselves, then just don't have comments!

You inspire me. I've watched your progress over these years and it makes me say to myself, "If Yvonne can do it, I can too!" You give me hope. And my Goddess, you are beautiful. You have no idea just how beautiful you are, I know. But trust me, as someone objective, you ARE.

Yes, you have come a long way Y from 250 but I disagree with almost everyone else. Not that you don't look good, but you can look even better! Correct me if I'm reading you wrong, but let me just say I know what it is like to gain a lot of weight after being thin. Until you get back to around that weight, you won't look good or feel good because you KNOW you can look better! (I'm not saying that to be mean, believe me, at my highest I had gained 100 pounds, 100 POUNDS! Everyone would tell me when I started losing weight "oh, you look good, don't lose anymore" but I know what I need to lose so that I feel sexy and like my old self.) Now, I have to comment to Wendy. Y doesn't come across at all to me as trying to correct what other people write. This is HER blog, if you don't like what she has to say or how she says it, then don't read it. It's as simple as that. Y knows her family and her children love her and are grateful for her. Having all the love in the world doesn't make you complete unless you love yourself. Right now, because of her extra weight, she doesn't love herself. Maybe you've never been fat, or you are fat and accept it, but those of us that are fat and don't accept it, it's true we are our worst critics. Y is not the only one that does this (I myself do it). I completely understand where she is coming from. She writes a lot of things I feel on a daily basis. I envy her courage to even share that with the internet, I myself have yet to be able to bring myself to do that. So to make a long comment even longer, Y, I'm behind you and hope you don't stop posting your brutal honesty. It's one of the reasons I come here to check up on you every day. I'm not going to wish you luck with the remaining 45 pounds, I know you can do it!

Hey, I think you look GREAT! And it must be refreshing to hear that from so many people (fans!) on your blog, if you can accept that. You go, girl! Old school but whatever...

jen i dont disagree with anything you said except for where you said that she doesn't correct other commentors. half the other posting was about a couple of commentors misreading her intentions and about how people misunderstand why she was posting about her weight issue. and if people weren't interested in other people making them feel better they wouldnt have comments enabled. people who want to write to express themselves just do it without worrying about what other people say. but if she's going to talk about honesty on her part, she shouldnt be upset when honesty comes out through others.

yvonne....you're not letting us comment on your more recent post so i'll put it here....i haven't read a lot of the responses here, so i'm just going to say what i think....and it's said with love and support and understanding

i'm 5'7" and i weight 252 pounds....and i live in hong kong where the average woman is 5'2" and 90 lbs....i get stared at every day...hell last night i got into a cab and when i told the driver where i wanted to go he told me i shouldn't be so lazy because i was so fat...must be 300 lbs....why so lazy....it's the way it is here, not meant maliciously but i live with it daily

i know what you mean about never being good enough....i once starved myself into getting down to ideal weight thinking this will solve all my feelings of not measuring up....but it didn't...it's something far deeper inside me than the size of my clothes..and perhaps Y you will find out the cause of your pain ...i hope you will...big hug

no matter who tells us we look gorgeous with our extra poundage, WE know how we feel...i know that when i walk into a public place like a starbucks, i feel the eyes on me, i feel extra little ripple of flesh, i feel the bulge over the top of my skirt....and noone telling me i look great will take those feelings away....it's a part of me

i dunno Y, i just wanted to let you know that i understand, that i know how it is, that i do empathise.....and that i know only YOU can understand your feelings and that everytime you post i read and hold you tight...and i have cried with you too

i also think your talking about it is a very healthy thing to do and never stop sharing with us.....i know that there are a lot of people here who are behind you and ready to catch you if you stumble....as you have done for others...

with love

Fiona

That's where you're wrong, Wendy.

I'm not upset with people. I appreciate people being honest. My point was that I didnt' THINK I was being hard on myself, but, people did, so I was confused. I agree with people who have said that I'm hard on myself and that the way I talk about my body isn't healthy, so, I'm trying to change. So, when I wrote that I was just surprised that I'm STILL percieved as "too hard and mean" with myself because I've really been trying to be more postitive. That's all I was trying to express. Am I really NOT making that clear?

I'm HUMAN, I'm going to have a reaction to what people say.

I admit I LOVE the interaction of comments. I've never denied that. But that is NOT the reason I write. Never has been.

What I don't get is why you are so upset and annoyed that I expressed feeling "misunderstood."

But, anyway. I'm done. :-)

oh Y,
i an 5'3" and i weigh 185 lbs. i weighed 115 before i had my son 9 years ago. i gained 70 lbs when i was pregnant. at one point a few years ago, i lost about 30 lbs because of depression. i have since gained it back. my son will be 9 years old next Friday. I still weigh exactly what i weighed when i was pregnant. last week i decided that this was it. i am going to get down to 140 by next summer. i am watching what i eat very closely and have added a LOT of excersize.

i think you look great so far. your progress is what has inspired me to get moving. you are correct in that you still have a ways to go to get to your ideal weight for your height. and i know (because i feel the same way) that you will not be even close to happy until you are there. and even then, you will still want to look better. i just want you to know that you have made amazin progress. and i have all the respect in the world for you. keep up with what you are doing. even if it seems like it's taking an eternity to come off, the weight WILL come off.

we'll do it together Y! you way over there on your west coast, and me here in Pittsburgh. you are going to be my motivation. so thank you Y. and keep working. we'll get there. you're doing so well.

oh, one more thing... you are NOT being too hard on yourself. you need to do what makes you happy and what makes you feel good. when you feel better physically and emotionally it will be visible to everyone around you. your kids will notice the difference in you, outside as well as in. keep working towards your happiness. everyone, including you, will benefit from it. love you Y!

Jessica

Girl, we super duper love you. You're doing great, and i'm so happy that you're showing yourself off!! You're so beautiful and wonderful, and you truly do look so great. Don't stop trying, don't stop loving yourself, and you are always always always good enough!

Dear Wendy,
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Y we love you. Forget what the negative people say. That story about you as a kid never getting your name on the board brought tears to my eyes.

You know what? This is your blog andyou really should do just as Wendy suggests and moderate all comments. Begin by getting rid of all negative ones by posters who are jealous of you. Just delete comments like Wendis. She doesnt deserve space on your blog!

We love you Y and we support you 100%!

Hi am just me I love Y's blog, I love the way she writes. I love that she interacts with the comments. I get what she is going through. I am as of right now 205 and 5' 4 1/2 in my very late 30's (dang age has made me shrink from 5'5 3/4 what the heck is up with that?)This is the ONLY place I will ever admit to what I weigh, until of course I loose about 50 pounds that is lol. Hang in the Y you are doing great. I know Wendy meanswell but, give her a break ok.

I aint mad at Wendy. She's entitled to be annoyed with me.

It's just that I want to make the entire world understand me and um, well, that's just not possible and I have to let that dream die.

I'm so glad you feel comfortable enough to share your struggles with weight.

Overweights UNITE! And kick Fat Ass!

those last few posts made me smile

yanno Y, one of the things i adore about reading your blog is......the grace with which you handle yourself....now i know i've seen you spit blood when it comes to your beloved family and rightly so....but you just have such a lovely way about you when it comes to 'discussion' about your words

and you have given a lot of us an 'out' for our feelings about our weight....someone said it up there....i never like to openly talk about it except for in here because i can do it without someone throwing an insult my way....we all support each other

i'm 47 and i've lost countless years to being fat....things i haven't done, wished i could have, wished i had, wondered if i'd have enjoyed if i'd had the guts, men i've missed out on knowing not because they didn't find me attractive but because i didn't find me attractive...etc. etc.

but i also know this...having lived so many years with the added weight has given me a facet of my personality i don't think i'd have had, had i grown up and grown old as a slim anything-goes woman

yvonne...don't ever stop writing exactly as you do...with the raw honesty we all come to expect from you...whether it be about farts or poop or the love you have for those in your life, or just how you feel deep inside....

i for one adore you for it *S*

mrs darling? i am hardly jealous. i have my own family, i too have a husband who worships me as y says hers does (but I worship him, too) , and i have children who make the family complete. i have weight issues as well but i DONT go around constandly obsessing over it and making my family be part of an issue i take full control over. i work out at least four times a week and i walk the days i dont work out and i do NOT give in to any kind of craving. it takes work to get the weight off and keep it off.
i also love the people who have to constantly kiss ass and make comments about how somebody like me should be deleted because y shouldnt have to listen to stuff like this. i was hardly insulting. have any of you people ever heard of tough love? probably not, and probably nothiing you ever practice yourself because in this day and age you cant possibly 'hurt' anybodys feelings no matter how direclty they need a kick in the ass. you all constantly tell her shes doing great looks great yadayada and you know what she DOES look good but for heavens sake suck a breath in and accept the fact that even SHE said she isnt insulted or hurt. Shes been told probably 5,667,890 how great she looks. nobody's calling her names. nobodys telling her shes a major loser. I told her she needs to get a grip and do what is necessary to STOP the complaining. but you all sit around and feed into it and tell her everything she wants to hear, nothing she NEEDS to hear, and protect her when she doesnt need it. Ill quit now because its obvious that this space is reserved for only people who stroke and probably are a bunch of major hypocrites and replying again is just blowing in the wind.

Wendy? go the hell away. Bask in your issue-less life. Seriously, man. If this weren't the internet and i had some ctual way to come and punch you in the face, i would. Whaat the hell good does it do for you to show up and be a bitch? You can't even encourage? Yeah, whatever girl. Come and post on my blog, where nobody reads. I made a special post just for you.

when someone already isn't happy with thier self immage, "tough love" only makes the self immage stick. encouragement makes all the difference. Y know's she shouldn't beat herself up. she tries not to. however, when something is that important to you, it DOES become a major part of your life. so even if you mean well with the "tough love", it's not going to help nearly as much as encouraging her by telling her that her progress is great and that she will get where she wants to be if she's patient and persistant. you're right in that people shouldn't say she's perfect, because she will never see herself that way. i find that to be a good thing. because someone who finds themselves to be perfect would be incorrect. she DOES look great and will look even better when she is as the weight she will be happy at. that will make her self image soar. so please, all of you, stop arguing over who's being mean or insulting. let Y take things how she wants to take them and just encourage her for crying-out-loud.

LOL I am so so NOT comfortable with putting that out there for the internet world to see! I almost just emailed that info to you but, heck I figured if you can be honest then I would bite the bullet as they say :) See all your whining (as you call it) has been an actual encouragement LOL! I made it through day one of WW.

I just want you to know, I applaud your weight loss, and appreciated your honesty. I understand how sometimes what you see as honest, other people see as being hard on yourself. Believe me, I routinely appall the people in my life with my "honesty" about myself. Even 15 extra pounds crush my self-esteem into a little flat roadkill pancake. And I know how hard it is, sometimes, to find validation within yourself, especially when validation and acknowledgement from outside sources is in short supply during your formative years. To me, your weight loss is a wonderful, amazing accomplishment. You really do look great. Your decision to ditch the "fat pants" and show how far you feel you have to go yet is incredibly brave. But more impressive to me by far is how far you have come in terms of your self image. I think what you're displaying now is much more determination, and much less self-loathing. That is commendable. Keep up the good work!

wendy, "tough love" isn't something a person would ever need or want to get from an internet stranger who doesn't share anything of herself except in comments. i mean, you don't have a journal yourself that you're sharing, you're just a couple of comments. so, comment away, i guess, since it's allowed, but don't think that the people who come here to read every post by Y are fooled into thinking you're exhibiting anything like "tough love." that's goofy. your vehemence and the way you think you know what "she NEEDS to hear" is really kind of freaky, too. if you haunted MY journal (not sharing it with you), I'd be pretty creeped out.

gee lori. that's really going to upset my life that youre not sharing your journal with me.
oh and thanks for thinking YOU know anything about ME. typical hypocritical comment that you sling exactly the same crap you claim i'm slinging.

i thought wendy said she'd quit?

Well, I'm 5' and 100lbs and those pants look a zillion times better on you than they ever would on me. It ain't about the weight, it's about the shape, and woman, you are shapely!!!

I'm just sitting here thinking that if Y starts closing comments because of this bullshit I am seriously going to be pissed.
And yes, that was a totally selfish thought.

Y, sweetie, you can't please everyone all the time. Just worry about pleasing yourself and you'll be allright.