I hope you told her this. If not, go back and do so. A doctor is supposed to help, listen, and do more than just point out the obvious. I'd have sucker punched her for sure. I've had doctors fire me as a patient because I don't put up with their idiocy. I don't care. I want a doctor that will listen, advise, do his/her job and help me to help myself.

Nice doctor.

Well, I'm not a doctor although I play one on the internet - I'm assuming you had a blood workup? I've recently been diagnosed diabetic, and before I got my sugars under control I had trouble losing weight and I woke up at night feeling like I was choking to death without any air to breathe, and my skin was so dry I had rashes. On my arms and elsewhere. Also...my vagina was a mess as you say yours is.

Hope you aren't diabetic because it's like being pregnant FOR LIFE with the way you have to take care of yourself and have no fun.

But...have blood work done. Diabetes manifests itself if ways they don't tell you until you are diagnosed diabetic and go to class then they open their big secret book of symptoms.

Good luck, and feel better.

Obviously, this doctor SUCKS! Do you know any nurses that live in your area? Nurses can be a great resource for who the decent doctors are. Give your provider list to a nurse or a medical person you know, maybe there is someone better on "the list".
Also complain to your insurance company about this person. Complain to the office manager or write a letter to the SUCKING DOCTOR. It may not help, but it may make you feel better-and sometimes medical people need to be put in their place.

Y, I had this SAME conversation yesterday with someone. It's so frustrating, I agree!!! No wonder so many people who are overweight hate going to see the doctor when everything is reduced to their weight (same thing happens to smokers, I'd guess).

If you care to return to see her, I would in no uncertain terms VOICE your thoughts. Doctors need to be told when they're fucking up and ignoring what people are telling them.

When you say you have trouble breathing at night is it due to anxiety, Yvonne, or do you actually have trouble physiologically? Just wondering if maybe you have sleep apnea. . .

One more reason for me to not go to the doctor.

What you need is an overweight doctor.
The breathing does sound like it may be sleep apnea. Find someone who can help you without being an ass.

I just went through some problems with a doctor. I had the most awesome doctor in the world. Young, cute, funny, CARING...But then he moved and a new doctor took over who was exactly opposite. He accused my husband of abusing drugs because he asked for a refill on his ADD meds three days before the prescription ran out. Then when he met my husband he told him he needs to be on heart medication for high blood pressure. Uh, thanks but no thanks.

We asked pharmasists about different doctors. One recomended a fairly new doctor. I went to meet him (because I wanted to do that before I switched over) and he is just as good as my old doctor.

Maybe you should try that. Ask different pharmasists which doctors they think are the most personable and caring. By all means, get a second opinion from someone who cares!

I went to my doctor the other week about my depression. The fact that I've been in the Depths of Despair since like, September, and I'm not getting better. That I'm not eating, I'm not sleeping, etc etc etc etc.

What was her response? HER EXACT WORDS:

"Well you can't just sit in front of the fridge all day eating. If you need to, PUT DUCT TAPE OVER YOUR MOUTH and leave the house. I mean you weigh xxx lbs-- it can't be true that you're not eating. Don't try to fool me".

I should have smacked her, but I just smiled and left after she'd written my prescription. Which is not working. And she thinks it's because I sit in front of the fridge eating all day so she's not changing it. Anyway.

Later I went to my therapist and told her about this and her jaw literally dropped. She couldn't believe that a physician would say that to a patient. Then she said "Wait a minute-- your doc has lost quite a bit of weight... maybe this is an issue for her".

Well, fine, but how does that help ME?

I'm currently trying to figure out how to change doctors.

i'm sorry you had to deal with that Y. a lot of doctor's have fat prejudice. they think fat people just sit at home eating all day, and then want miracle drugs to cure them. my mom is overweight and has been fighting the same battle with doctors for years. they see her, and they automatically judge her.

my advice? find a new doctor. one who will take you and your conditions seriously. and like a few other people said, get checked for diabetes and sleep apnea. it's true that both conditions can be brought on by being overweight, but there are things that can be done in the meantime to make you feel better. my mom has both diabetes and sleep apnea, and she has finally found a doctor to treat both. she feels worlds better, and so will you!

Just so you know, I am fat. Fatter than you, even and I don't have those problems. None of them. Perhaps she is painting with an awfully large brush because wouldn't that mean that every fat person should be having those problems because FUCK THEY ARE FAT! Whatever. You don't need to do anything but go to a new doctor. Also, I would call her supervisor and speak to them about her lack of bedside manner.

Y, GET A NEW DOCTOR NOW! Even if your problems turn out to be minor, they are important to address and identify. You have the right to adequate healthcare and this hack of a doctor dismissing your questions and problems was rediculous. I would call her clinic and complain. I would get a new doc, ASAP and refuse to leave without answers. Be tough, stand up for yourself and be your own body guard. You are a wonderful beautiful person, and you deserve the best. Hang in there.

I went through a simlar experience and it turned out that I had cancer and my PCP was IGNORING what I was saying! CANCER!

Now I don't think you have cancer, but I think you deserve answers and validation and there is a time to put your foot down. That time is now.

Hi Yvonne. I don't really know how these things work for you guys since I'm from Canada...but it sounds to me like ( if you can ) you really really really need to find a new doctor. Doctors are supposed to listen and help not ridicule and insult. Go find someone caring. You deserve it.

Definitely weird that a Dr. wouldn't have more concern about your breathing problems. I mean, that is usually the ONE thing they hear! I used to wheez at night when I went to bed. After much poking, proding, and testing I found out I was allergic to dustmites (in my bed, eww).

I agree, you need a new doctor. I'm fat too and I've had 1 doctor say that to me, the same doctor who delivered me. When I was old enough, I picked my own doctor and haven't looked back since. I think you're doctor really needs to be smacked with her own stethoscope for not seriously treating you.

Yeah, that's some bullshit, Y. I weigh about as much as you do, and I don't have trouble breathing when I sleep. (Now, when I do anything faster than, say, a slow saunter to the fridge, that's a different story.) While I don't think it's big serious, there's something that needs to be looked at.

I say report her to the BBB or Cali's medical board. Fuck her.

Owning a medical journal/dictionary is as evil as owning a DSMIV.... Its EVIL... E--VILL I tell you.

I only have DSM... So I am only crazy, not sick.

Hope you feel better.

This is not the Yvie I know. She would have told that dr. she needed to improve her bedside manner & for that matter, learn her job too. You don't have to take any shit.

Yvonne get a life you sick pervert..I wonder if your family knows about this website!!!

Are you going to quit calling me names and pretending like I don't know who you are or are you going to grow up and call me to talk about this? Should I be expecting a call from dad tomorrow?

I can't believe you wouldn't just call me to talk about this. You know damn well why I wouldn't tell my family about this.

Tony knows and he loves it, but you know that my family would judge me and be upset with me for the language, even though it's harmless.

And? They'd call me names like sick pervert and idiot rather than TALK TO ME ABOUT IT.

Thanks alot.

And I'm still awake if you want to call me like a grown up.

umm what was that about

Hey Y ~

Good for you for sticking up for yourself against the individual who apparently is to cowardley to talk to you (judging by your commet you know this person well). And as far as I know, if a person has a blog, that doesn't mean they have an obligation to tell anyone they know about it unless they want to.

Oh, and girl, get yourself a doctor that will actually listen to you instead of just brushing you off.

Kerri

Uhm, weird person? Why does Y have to tell her family about this? She's a grown woman and she's allowed to write what she wants to, and doesn't have to ask her parents' permission. Whoever you are, you're obviously someone she doesn't trust enough (with good reason, given your comment) to tell you about it.
Stupid drama.

Yvonne,

I think you are wonderful, no matter what that moron says!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Girl,
Call your dr tomorrow, and tell her to eff off. Then get thee to a doctor that cares about his/her patients, because this is unacceptable behavior.

I thinki its time to get a new doctor - one that doesn't have not onl y a fat phobia, but obviously a disdain for fat people. That's no kind of doctor there. You deserve better.

Isn't everyone in America overweight in some way shape or form? Your doctor needs to get a clue. My father in law woke up a lot in the night gasping for air. He fell asleep the second he sat down anywhere and he couldn't lose weight no matter how hard he tried. He finally went to the doctor and found out that he has sleep apnea. When they put him on oxygen during the night, he lost 80 lbs and felt like a new man. It is caused by or made worse from being over weight in some cases. However, it is a vicious cycle because you are getting a third less of the oxygen that you need to get by. This makes you tired, depressed, forgetful, and unhealthy. Too tired to do your daily activities let alone work out. Find a new doctor and tell them that you think you may have sleep apnea and they'll put you in for a sleep study. It's just a thought, but it's better than listening to that asshat doctor.