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November 17, 2008
That's as romantic as it's going to get UP IN HERE, UP IN HERE.

This morning I woke up at 4:30 am to the sound of my husband shaving in sink in the bedroom.

"Could you BE any louder?" I said in that grumpy way that I talk at 4:30 in the morning.

He apologized and turned the water on and off in a much gentler way. Within a minute of being woke up, I realized what day it was.

I knew he had no clue.

I waited as he walked around the room picking up various things that he needed for work. Keys. Cell phone. Time card. Gum.

He said nothing.

The 19 year old me would have been mad and not said a thing. I would have let him leave without bringing it to his attention so that I could use it as a weapon later that evening.

But present day me is too old and tired and, perhaps, mature for all of that drama so I got out of bed, hugged him and said "What's today?"

"It's Monday."

"I know it's Monday, but what IS today?"

"It's the 17th..."

Still. Nothing.

And then I saw the look on his face change. He finally realized that today was our wedding anniversary. Our 18th wedding anniversary.

He felt bad and promised to take me out this weekend. And instead of getting all dramatic about how dare he forget our anniversary! I accepted his offer because after this many years together, drama is pointless. At this point, if he brought me home a can of bean dip for the bag of fritos that has been torturing me for the past 3 weeks, I'd be like "Thanks for the best anniversary present EVER!!

Seriously...all that matter is that He Love Me Long Time.

So, yeah, Happy 18th year of marriage to us.

Happy 18th Anniversary to us.

(A friend just sent an "Happy Anniversary email (Yes, we have friends in real life. I KNOW.) and included this never before seen picture. It's no wonder we've lasted so long. We're awesome.)

Posted by Y at November 17, 2008 12:19 PM
Comments

Happy Anniversary, Y & Pighunter!
Sounds exactly like my husband's and my anniversary celebrations. We've been married 16 years.

Posted by: Denise at November 17, 2008 12:44 PM

Happy anniversary !

Posted by: Jenn at November 17, 2008 12:45 PM

Happy anniversary! I'm impressed at your restraint and your maturity. I don't think I'm there yet.

Posted by: Jennifer, Playgroups are no place for children at November 17, 2008 12:54 PM

Happy Anniversary, Y! Hey, the best celebrations are the ones where you truly enjoy yourselves; so rock on with the fritos and bean dip!!! This from one who's been married 23 years and just discovered he's been sleeping with someone else for four of them. Care to share the fritos and bean dip? I shouldn't have shit on your day like that. You and pighunter have been through the ringer together these last few years and I'm so happy for the both of you. LOVE you and your blog!!

Posted by: Susan at November 17, 2008 12:54 PM

I think waking up at 4:30 AM to take care of his family working that early is such a testament to his being a great husband as it is.

That said, my friend, you are a bigger woman than I. I would have milked that for some serious schwag or manual labor around the house.

Yep, I'm a bitch after 12 yeras of marriage. Still haven't attained that higher level. Heh!

~Scout's Honor

Posted by: Scout's Honor at November 17, 2008 1:04 PM

Oh, and Susan, I'd stab him in the 'nads if I were you. I tell my husband that as precautionary advice all the time. He thinks I'm planning his death is he so much as gets a twitter from a woman I don't know.

~Scout's Honor

Posted by: Scout's Honor at November 17, 2008 1:07 PM

Oh gawd, I sooo would have waited to see if he remembered on his own. Because I? Am an immature bitch.

Happy 18th Anniversary! (In 12 days, I'll celebrate my 6th!)

Posted by: Amaelija at November 17, 2008 1:13 PM

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!

I know JUST what I'm going to get you: Do you have a Wi Fit?

Posted by: Lena at November 17, 2008 1:15 PM

Y- I love it! We share 11/17. Today is my birthday - 53rd!
And as far as the anniversary - I'm happy to wake up and see he is still around on our anniversary!!! Forget the roses and bean dip!

Happy Day! You have many riches to celebrate.

Posted by: Paula at November 17, 2008 1:16 PM

Congrats and Happy 18th Anniversary Y!! That is really awesome and inspiring :)

Posted by: Candace at November 17, 2008 1:26 PM

Happy Anniversary!! Way to be all mature and stuff. My husband never forgets, and always takes me out to dinner. I still pout if there's no gift.

Posted by: Amy @ Milk Breath & Margaritas at November 17, 2008 1:29 PM

Happy anniversary!

So the early morning wakeup call explains the Blogher e-mail you were so kind enough to send me in the wee hours of the morning. :)

Congrats, and I hope you get that bean dip!

Posted by: DiaryofWhy at November 17, 2008 1:30 PM

Happy Anniversary!

Hee... I will never NOT get a chuckle out of your GIANT VEIL!

Posted by: Stephanie at November 17, 2008 1:37 PM

There is something very romantic about being comfortable enough to let these sort of things slide. Or to pick your battles.

Maybe not the zing of romance but the everyday choice to be there with each other is true. Doesn't matter the day it may be.

And I'm right there with ya but I'd like some pretzels and dip. If I got that??? Oh, the romance! Here's wishing your fritos and bean dip!

Posted by: Beth Nixon at November 17, 2008 1:38 PM

Science has proven that we are missing a chromatological hypocondroid ganglia gland that hampers our ability to remember key dates. It's not his fault!

Oh, I almost forgot. See?!....Happy Anniversary!

Posted by: Chris at November 17, 2008 1:40 PM

18 years and you still have a sex maniac for a husband.....kudos to the both of you! I wish you two all the very best...so much more to look forward to!!
Michelle xoxo

Posted by: Michelle at November 17, 2008 1:47 PM

Happy Anniversary to you two!

Sometimes I think I might be the only woman who forgets stuff like this - I forgot my husband's birthday last month - only for like a few hours, but still. I should be better than a man with remembering the special days.

Posted by: ambrosia at November 17, 2008 1:56 PM

Happy Anniversary!

I hope I can be as mature as you by the time we reach our 18th anniversary...

Posted by: Angella at November 17, 2008 2:03 PM

Happy Anniversary! Hope it all goes well for the rest of the day!

Posted by: Kathy at November 17, 2008 2:16 PM

happy anniversay !!!!!!:)
hope today is bean dip frito lay induced with lots of love

Posted by: tonya cinnamon at November 17, 2008 2:56 PM

Happy Day! 18 is a big deal!

We share our anniversary week. Our 11th is on Saturday.

Posted by: Headless Mom at November 17, 2008 3:14 PM

Happy Anniversary! Congrats! 18 - wow!

Posted by: (In)Sanity Gal at November 17, 2008 4:11 PM

Happy Anniversary! Great picture :-)

Posted by: stepmomof2 at November 17, 2008 5:27 PM

Hooray for your happy marriage! Thinking of both of you. :)

Posted by: Suburban Turmoil at November 17, 2008 5:47 PM

you rock!

Posted by: Tracee Sioux at November 17, 2008 7:35 PM

Happy anniversary!

Posted by: comebacknikki at November 17, 2008 7:54 PM

Happy Anniversary Y & PigHunter!!
Good for both of You! Life is best spent with ones who know how to make us laugh the hardest!! Seriously, I Love everything about my man of 23 years, but what I love most is when I am laughing so hard that I have to try and get him to stop and make sure the eyeliner is ok, because I am laughing/crying. It makes me laugh even harder when he trys to stretch his face to mock me and my overstretched eyes "is my eyeliner okay?" I KNOW I am not the only one to ask this question of her man!

Posted by: jesseeezmom at November 17, 2008 8:04 PM

Happy Anniversary......... a day late!. I am always late. Story of my life lol.

Posted by: justme at November 18, 2008 3:03 AM

HAPPEYYYY ANNIVERSARY. i love the picture. and love. love rocks! :)

Posted by: kim at November 18, 2008 4:54 AM

18 years awesome! Happy Anniversary! :)

Posted by: rialeilani at November 18, 2008 6:31 AM

Happy Anniversary you two! 18 years is really something to be proud of!

Posted by: geeky at November 18, 2008 6:33 AM

Happy drama-free Anniversary to you! Celebrate and enjoy your day!

Posted by: Suzanne at November 18, 2008 8:03 AM

Awwwww! Happy anniversary, you two!

Love the picture!

Posted by: Christine at November 18, 2008 9:36 AM

LOL...I love that pic!!! Happy anniversary and I think you're way cool. 18 years...drama free, you both rock!

Posted by: Safa at November 18, 2008 9:39 AM

Happy Anniversary! I love the pic! My husband and I just had our 12th anniversary...he's deployed, again. He's actually been HOME for maybe 2 of them! He owes me BIG TIME when he retires from the Army!

Posted by: Jen at November 18, 2008 10:11 AM

Интересно. И самое главное - необычно.

Posted by: BeegreeDask at November 18, 2008 1:32 PM

Happy 18th Anniversary! Here's hoping he surprises you!

Posted by: Brandy at November 18, 2008 1:34 PM

Happy 18th Anniversary, hope you got your bean dip.

Posted by: FishyGirl at November 18, 2008 2:16 PM

Happy Anniversary you two! Many more to come!!

Posted by: Deborah at November 18, 2008 3:56 PM

Happy Anniversary plus 1.

Posted by: zandor at November 18, 2008 4:19 PM

I should take note here. My husband forgot my birthday this year it was ALL DRAMA ALL DAY and pretty much all week.

Posted by: KTP at November 18, 2008 4:41 PM

Love the photo. I am so with you on not holding grudges with husbands. In our family the roles are reversed and my husband is much better at remembering dates and buying gifts. I always think let's not spend any money on each other. We have been married 18 years, so this works for us.

Posted by: Mom on the Run at November 18, 2008 9:45 PM

I hope he did bring you home bean dip.

Love the photo. How nice of him to have put up with you for so long!

Posted by: patois at November 18, 2008 10:31 PM

Good for you for not getting dramatic. Especially at 4:30 in the morining! I might have been all grouchy. :)
Happy anniversary!

Posted by: cindy at November 19, 2008 1:29 AM

Happy Anniversary Y and Pighunter! I love the picture by the way, ya'll are awesome! Hugs from Fort Worth!

Posted by: Tammy at November 19, 2008 9:50 AM

That picture is great. Happy anniversary!

Posted by: Jenn at November 19, 2008 10:02 AM

Awwwwwwww! You two are so cute! Happy Anniversary!

p.s. I love the passive-aggressive bird ;)

Posted by: Dory at November 19, 2008 10:22 AM

In this day and age, 18 years is nothing short of miraculous. Congratulations! The hubs and me celebrated 22 years this past June, so I know the feeling about not getting overly dramatic. In other anniversary news? Today is my 3 Year Blogiversary. Just saying.

Posted by: apathy lounge at November 19, 2008 10:35 AM

Well handled and happy anniversary!!

Posted by: Sher at November 19, 2008 12:32 PM

I love that photo! Happy Anniversary!

Posted by: Jerri Ann at November 19, 2008 2:34 PM

Excellent picture. Happy anniversary.

Posted by: Lisa- Domestic Accident at November 19, 2008 4:41 PM

Hope you had a wonderful anniversary!

Great photo, glad to see more posting from you lately!

Posted by: Amy the Mom at November 19, 2008 6:13 PM

"drama is pointless"

THAT is the kinda marriage advice the world can use! Happy anniversary! 18 years is a huge deal and you guys are fantastic!

Posted by: christina at November 19, 2008 6:13 PM

Funny how marriage can be all drama. You should see some of the emails me and the man have since that's how we argue while we're at work.

6+ hours of electronic and in-person fighting is way too much time in a person's life.

He should just submit and realize I'm always right and my way IS the best.

Big dummy.

Posted by: girlplease at November 20, 2008 7:31 AM

Y'all? Are my kinds of people.

Of course I knew that.

Happy Anniversary! 18 years. Doood.

Posted by: Mrs. Flinger at November 20, 2008 9:15 PM

The reason you two are still together is because you are too fat and he is too ugly to find someone else....eat the dip and have a nice day!

Posted by: Christine at November 21, 2008 10:12 AM

Better late than never....Happy Anniversary! That picture is priceless. :)

Posted by: Elizabeth at November 21, 2008 12:28 PM

You are being featured Five Star Friday! http://www.fivestarfriday.com/2008/11/five-star-friday-edition-33.html

Posted by: schmutzie at November 21, 2008 1:03 PM

Christine needs to take her scat smelling breath on out of here.

Posted by: Chris at November 21, 2008 1:06 PM

And the reason Christine feels comfortabe posting that comment is because she's a jealous bitch who feels better about herself when she's mean to others.

Posted by: Shelli at November 21, 2008 2:38 PM

oh yea, have a nice day!

Posted by: Shelli at November 21, 2008 2:51 PM

that's a hoot. Happy Anniversary.

Posted by: Hula Doula at November 21, 2008 8:49 PM

Is that the best you can come up with Christine? What an amateur. When my husband was in Iraq when the war started, people left comments on my blog like "your husband is a baby killer" and "I hope you get raped" and so on.

Maybe these parents should watch what their children do on the internet more (she has to be a child, isn't it elementary school children that yell out "you're ugly" and other overused insults?)

Posted by: Jen at November 22, 2008 6:40 AM

Happy Anniversary! 18 years! Wow that's a long time. Congrats!!

Posted by: mrsdoxtater at November 22, 2008 7:58 AM

Happy Anniversary!

You deserve all the accolades because marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done.

Posted by: gorillabuns at November 22, 2008 8:59 PM

What a great photo!

Happy Anniversary Y! Here is to many more years of wedded bliss.

Posted by: Redneck Mommy at November 23, 2008 12:48 PM

Happy Anniversary, and your site is so great..

Dorothy from grammology
grammology.com

Posted by: Dorothy Stahlnecker at November 23, 2008 1:28 PM

i hope that i find that kind of relationship someday... hell i'd just be happy to find someone who was happy with ONE woman.

christine's post didnt take any guts... she didnt even use her email so you could respond to her personally... i dont even know why she bothers reading you blog. and i wouldn't even give her the benefit of thinking she is a child. i don't know any children who would even say things like that. loser.

contrats Y and Pighunter! you two are so lucky to have found someone so perfect for you!!

Posted by: jessica at November 24, 2008 3:19 PM

Aren't you two just adorable?

Posted by: Michelle at November 28, 2008 4:06 PM

Hope everything's going great - we miss you! Are you coming back?

Posted by: Louise at November 30, 2008 5:34 AM

Happy Belated Anniversary to you both. I hope he took you to a wonderful place to celebrate.

Posted by: Dana at November 30, 2008 6:50 AM

Duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuude. Where are you?

Posted by: anne nahm at December 1, 2008 8:36 AM

You okay woman?? Hope all is well, and can't wait for a new post. You are missed here on the blogosphere.

Posted by: Jen at December 1, 2008 4:09 PM

De-lurking to worry about you. Where ARE you??

Posted by: ML at December 1, 2008 7:56 PM

oh fukktonie why you so dumb?

Hey, and YES we are going to see you this summer.

Posted by: melly at December 1, 2008 9:37 PM

Well I know it's a bit late but congratulations!!! Things like that make me so happy! And I also like how you decided not to get dramatic (not that I really know what I'm talking about, I'm 19 lol), but I am sure that I will be in your husband's situation at some point in my life. And I will apologize and promise her something and hopefully she just happily accepts. :] After all, you only realized it a few moments before he did lol. Plus, I think those things are good! What a boring place the world would be if it were perfect, and the same goes for marriage, right?

Saturday the 6th is 2 years together for my girlfriend and I. We're not doing formal gifts. :]

Love your blog!

http://patienceloveandpleasure.blogspot.com/

Posted by: Timmy at December 4, 2008 7:23 PM
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