I don’t know how much more I can take. Seriously.

My husband just got laid off.
Honestly. I could die.
We were just looking for a new car for him since his broke down for good. We were also trying to work it in our budget to have the kids teeth fixed. And other things. They aren’t going to happen now and I just don’t know what to do. I feel numb. And scared.
Mostly scared.
A little bit of good news and right now, I’ll take every bit of good news, no matter how small.
Sub division of company will hire him on so that we get to keep our health insurance. (which is actually more than a little bit of good news.) However, he will no longer be on salary and will lose a $750 monthly vehicle allowance. Also, since he’ll not be on salary, he will only get paid for hours worked and well, right now, there isn’t any work. But, at least it’s something to help get us through, hopefully. And at the very least, we have health insurance, so I can breathe again because that would have sucked more than I can even express in words.
Thank you for your kind words, it helps. Every single bit of kindness helps.
Much love.

138 thoughts on “I don’t know how much more I can take. Seriously.

  1. The Old Broad

    I feel for you, Girlfriend! Mine has been in the unemployment line for 2 1/2 months now. I love him dearly… but married people should NOT spend so much time together! I’m learning that sometimes I’d like to slice his jugular! Damn! Keep your chin up!

  2. JaniceNW

    For crying out loud! God, enough! I am so sorry. Believe it or not I was in a similar place 13 years ago when dh was laid off, I had 3rd child, third child got sick and died, grandmother died, Mom died 12 months later, we couold not have anymore kids, severe financial issues…etc.
    It seemed like every time I got off my back, I was knocked right back down. It sucked.
    You have my empathy and my prayers. You’re a good person. Bad stuff happens and none of it seems to make any sense.
    HUGS! Wish I could do more.

  3. Angel

    That is awful, I am so sorry Y. I wish I had some great comforting words. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family also.

  4. margalit

    I’m so sorry, Y. It just doesn’t stop, does it? Every time you feel secure and like things might be looking up, your son breaks someone’s $5K TV, your husband gets laid off, and your thyroid does a fandango on it’s way out of town.
    I’m sending you hugs and the best vibes I can. The internets just need to all join hands and do a big giant “Get off Y’s Back” thing right now. Everyone ready?

  5. Katie

    I don’t know what else to say. I have family in SoCal who could probably help you out (could provide jobs, depending upon the industry), but, no matter what happens it still sucks so extremely much that you have to face this reality.
    It’s not fair and it’s about freaking time you catch a break.

  6. that girl

    Time to pray, I’m on it. I’m glad you went to BlogHer. I am glad you had that time of fun and freedom if only for a few days. I am just so sorry, Y.

  7. Susan

    Oh Y, I am so sorry. I hope this just means that he’ll find something better, and that it turns out to be a blessing in disguise. It happens . . . and goodness knows you and your family deserve a break.

  8. Lara

    i’m so sorry, hon. i was looking through my baby book recently with my mom and sister, and we found a note in my dad’s handwriting:
    “lara and [mom] are coming home from hospital. all healthy.
    got laid off today. NOT HAPPY.”
    yep, my dad got laid off three days after i was born. that was some crap timing, but somehow, my folks got through it. i know you all will too. hugs and loving thoughts from me!

  9. Type (little) a

    I’m guessing it was a surprise? What does he do for a living? Will it be hard for him to find another job?
    I know it’s tough, I remember all too well how stressful it was every time my dad got laid off.

  10. divrchk

    You will get through this. My husband is active duty military and I curse his job daily. He is currently living alone in another state 14 hours away because we can’t sell this house and we can’t afford 2 homes. He’s living in basically a dorm room. But, he has his job security. For that I’m thankful. Unfortunately, you are not alone. Hopefully he’ll get another job very soon and you can breath again.

  11. divrchk

    BTW, is it just coincidence that the suicide hotline is the ad at the bottom of your posts?

  12. Emily

    Oh, Yvonne. That is horrible. I’m so sorry. Had you thought of adding a Paypal button to your site? Even if all of us only gave you $10 each, it could really add up. I like your writing well enough to pay for more, and I’m sure I’m not alone in this. But even if you choose to not put a button on your site, know this: even strangers in Ohio, the armpit of the United States, are pulling for you. You aren’t alone.

  13. Jamie

    I am so, so sorry. What do they say…shit-tastic things happen in threes? Let’s all hope and pray for only GOOD, nay, GREAT things for you and your family Y!

  14. catnip

    I’m so so sorry. This is the last thing you needed with everything else that’s going on. I know there’s nothing I can do to help but I wish I could.

  15. yinyang

    Oh, no! That’s horrible. I wish there was something I could do to help, other than give a lame e-hug. ::hugs::

  16. Elizabeth

    Oh god, I’m so so so sorry. I am hoping, somehow, that good things come out of this.
    I am thinking of you. I would also be terrified, just out of my mind, I just so wish there was something I could do.

  17. susan s

    I just discovered your site via someone’s blogher recap link. I love it here already! Sucky news about your husband. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  18. Nothing But Bonfires

    I’m so sorry. This is terrible, and the timing is hideous. Things are going to turn around for you soon, I promise. THEY HAVE TO. You might just need to sit tight and wait it out, but this continuum of bad luck is going to change at some point.
    “Time and the hour run through the roughest day.” I’ll be thinking of you.

  19. gleep

    Ugh, that’s just awful. I don’t know if it helps to hear this, but our family weathered layoffs several times when I growing up. Scary, yes, but somehow things always worked out.

  20. mandy

    Oh Y, so so sorry. I would have him file for unempl-asap. I hear they have extended it too, in case it takes some time finding work. I am just so sorry.
    I know, things will pick up.

  21. angie

    I’d like to add my vibes to those already piling up. I pray that things will turn around for you very soon. I wish I could offer more than words, or had something really smart and profound to share, but I have The Thyroid too and my brains are malfunctioning…

  22. Meghan

    Well shit! I’m sorry. My husband was unemployed for most of last year after getting laid off. Things get better eventually, I promise. Take care.

  23. Wendy

    God, I can’t even think of anything comforting to say. I’m so sorry things have been so rough for you. Like I said before, God won’t give you more than you can handle. Keep working through today, and before you know, it’ll be tomorrow.
    Sending love and prayers.

  24. Darcie

    I’m so sorry, sweetie. I dread my husband getting laid off; he’s our sole income, really. Work’s been getting more and more scarce and it’s always a foreboding thought.
    I hope he’s able to find something else soon!!

  25. Dana

    I have read for a long time and have never commented before, but I just wanted you to know that I understand… my dearest little girl is six months old… The day I took the pregnancy test my husband was fired, and he has been out of work until three weeks ago… We have been foreclosed on, almost lost a car, and owe two years worth of property taxes. But we are together (there are six of us) and we are alive… sometimes the bright side doesn’t seem very bright, but there is light at the end of the tunnel… I promise. I know that nothing I could say right now could make you feel any better, but I hope that one day you can look back and rememeber that people are praying for you.

  26. Corina

    I am sooooo sorry. If your archives have taught me anything, it’s that you and your family can weather any bad luck life throws your way. But knowing that you’ll survive doesn’t make these setbacks suck any less. Best wishes for a fabulous new job.

  27. renee

    i am so sorry. i hate it when this kind of shit happens.
    i’ve had the same kind of year- relapse in depression, 6 different psych hospitalizations, electroshock therapy, job loss (i was the main supporter of our family), and now- two broken ankles and a sprained knee.
    the paypal idea is a good one. my readers have been very loving and generous to me, and sometimes even knowing that you’re cared about by others is enough to get you to the next minute.
    peace to you.

  28. PeetsMom

    Holy Tony Look around – somethings lost and must be found!
    Oi vey. You have got to BELIEVE that your life is going to turn around VERY soon – you have been dealt too many bad hands. PLEASE don’t give up hope and PLEASE don’t lose your humor – you’re going to be ok!!!!!!!!

  29. LC

    WINE! WINE !!!! You NEED wine. I have some. I’m just trying to logicate the miles between you and I … and I’m realizing that we need MORE than wine to hook this up.
    YES. Y !!! I might have had TWO glasses already .. but seriously. You need a night of DRINKING! and SWEARING! and DRINKING!
    Seriously. I’m so sorry. Hang in there. OR move here and drink wine with me 🙂

  30. Looking Glass Jewels

    Oh, Y! This is so unfair! You and your sweet family DID NOT need this!
    Now, I personally get frustrated when something bad has happened to me and someone tells me a personal story about how they went through such-and-such and everything worked out and then they got a pink unicorn. I mean, that’s sweet and all, but it ain’t helping me… ya know?
    But, here I go anyway… please forgive me.
    My husband lost 3 jobs in like, 9 months. We were shit-ass broke, unable to pay rent, ended up declaring bankruptcy, and so on. However, he eventually got a job that is THE BEST THING EVER, and our lives completely changed for the better. If he had stayed at any of those 3 jobs, he would have never the taken opprotunity to find the one he has now. Not that the process didn’t SUCK OUT OUR SOULS, but it really really did work out for the absolute best. No pink unicorn, though.
    I know this blows hard. I hope it works out for the best, but that doesn’t help where you are now. (SUCKVILLE) I am so, so sorry, and I am thinking of you.
    Please hold on to hope.

  31. Mama DB

    that sucks, Y. I hope something is just around the corner for you guys.
    We’ve been without a paycheck since September (hubby’s starting a new company and well, it takes a while to get up and running.) I hear ya. It’s hard but we’re doing it.

  32. sam

    Dammit Y. I wanna say keep your head up, everything will be fine but I feel like I’ve said it a MILLION times.
    I love you. We all love you. We’re here for you!
    I hope PigHunter finds something soon!!

  33. blairzoo

    It must be a monsoon out there….so mcuh for the when it rains it pours thing. I’m so sorry for you and your family having to go through that. Best wishes, hugs, and prayers for a quick and successful new job.

  34. ambrosia

    Oh goodness, Y! It seems that the good vibes I’ve been sending aren’t quite reaching you way out there! I’ll try harder – I promise!

  35. Michelle

    I can’t add anything that others haven’t already said, but just know that there’s one more person praying for you and thinking of you guys. Things will get better. And if not, then The Universe gets a big kick in the balls.

  36. Nic

    I am so, so sorry. Thank GOD you have the health insurance. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers

  37. Tina

    I am SO sorry. Also thankful you have your insurance, hoping they can get that stupid thyroid back on track. Seriously, even though I’ve never commented before, you are in my thoughts and prayers often. (I hope that doesn’t sound creepy.)

  38. Cristin

    You’ll get through it-I know it! If it helps, I will add you to my list of special intentions when praying. It works! A friend of mine calls God my “Cosmic Cash Machine” because it he always comes through for me. I cannot capitalize “He, ” sorry. I think that just looks weird. No disrespect God.
    PS. I hate the “fuzzy brain” from Hashimoto’s. Sometimes I forget what I’m do-
    Huh? Where am I?

  39. Erin

    You’re in my thoughts and prayers, for what it’s worth. Try to focus on what positive there is. You’ve been through worse and you’ll get through this. Just don’t let the hard times hurt your family or your love.

  40. Dawn B

    Totally understand here… My husband has been laid off in construction off and on for a YEAR now.
    When things are good, they’re really good with his field ..when things are bad, they’re really bad. He and I have been together for 5 years now and it’s never been that bad before..ever.
    He collects on more check of unemployment next week and geeezus that’s the last one because he starts a new job next week!
    So, that just goes to show ya..it DOES get better.

  41. lani

    What a kick in the teeth. Glad they’re helping you out with the health insurance, though. Sending warm, positive thoughts your way. I’m so sorry.

  42. Rachael

    I’m sorry about the job. It is definitely good they’re keeping him as an employee like that, health insurance is freaking expensive. My husband lost his job last December, and didn’t work for several months. It was scary (sometimes it still is since new job doesn’t pay much), but we got through it, and you will too. I’ll be thinking of you and hoping something new and great comes along for you guys.

  43. Corinne

    FUCK. Right there with you…mine’s been out of work since January. And everyone says “oh it’ll be so much better in the end”, but you have to actually get to the end.
    Hoping the end comes very soon for you.

  44. mel from freak parade

    Oh, Y…I am so sorry. We are in financial hell at the moment as well. I’m not going to share my sob story here, but I do want you to know that I understand how bad this sucks, and I will be praying for you like crazy.

  45. Louise

    My sympathies, Y. I can’t say much more than anyone else already has. I’ve been there (albeit without kids in the equation – that must be the worst), and it does get better.

  46. Kristin

    Holy Sh*t… I am so sorry! I’m glad he’s still got something going on, but this must be really tough on all of you… I’m sure he feels beyond awful… F*ck this economy – vote wisely people, vote wisely.
    Sending you good employment ju-ju.

  47. Vanessa

    I’m so glad that the company found him a position to allow for health insurance. It *will* get better, it just has to get better. I’m sending all the good job vibes I can your way.

  48. mamasdramas

    Wow girl, I’m sorry… I’m not heavily religious, so don’t think I’m gonna try and convert you or anything, but I will pray for you and your family… we were in a similar situation a few years ago… when we went through this crap it makes us stronger both as individuals and as a family- hope it does the same for you all and hey- it can only get better from here now, right?

  49. Dorothy Stahlnecker

    I’m wondering how much we can take when our government is giving our tax dollars away and we just keep suffering because of all the bad judgments our politicians have made in the last ten years.
    Gas, food, companies closing or laying off good people. What can we do..I’m with you scared and wondering about our future.
    I’ll pray for you and your family.
    Dorothy from grammology

  50. Jenny, The Bloggess

    I’m sorry isn’t enough. I wish I was there to hug you and make all the worry go away.
    This will pass. It will. Keep holding on and one day you will know why you had to go through all of this shit to make you wise in the ways of pain.
    If there’s anything I can do (seriously, anything) let me know. I’m here for you, chica.

  51. Ashley

    Oh, Y. I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m thinking about you and hoping that there is a silver lining. Smooches and hugs from the Middle.

  52. kdiddy

    I won’t pretend to know what to say, but I do know plenty about the fear of REALLY not getting by (“REALLY” as opposed to “oh, bother, I guess we can’t get that third Jaguar after all”). so I’ll just offer you my support. I’m thinking of you and your family.

  53. chaneireli

    Thank goodness this year is almost over. It’s almost over right? After this year you deserve a crazily amazing good year! I’ll be praying that a wonderful, wonderful, absolutely amazing job comes along and that your thyroid miraculously heals itself.

  54. Lex

    When I saw your tweet, I said a prayer for you and your family. I hope that the door opens to something great for all of you.

  55. 3rdcoastkaren

    Finally delurking to say I too am praying for you and your family. We have been holding on tightly to the edge of the cliff
    here in MI as well. Hope you can feel the love we send you,
    because we do love you and your blog!

  56. gingermog

    God I am so sorry for you Y. Angry and pissed that the company did this to your husband who I am sure is a damm fine man. I am sure it is not personal but a symptom of the recession we are in. It is the same in the Uk and I live month to month too I am putting good thoughts your way and hoping a new, even better job comes up really fast.

  57. Jenny H.

    I’ve been there, twice. I am thinking of you and your wonderful family today. I know you will all get through this. I am thinking positive thoughts and saying prayers and sending them all your way.
    It may not seem like it now, but everything will be okay.

  58. Burgh Baby

    That is The Suck. I was right there when the Toddler was 12 weeks old, so I know how scary it is, but really, it will work out. It has to.

  59. Mandi

    I just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you. You’ve had a rough year and I really hope that things improve really soon. Hugs sweetie.

  60. Kristy

    I just watched 7 long time people get canned at my workplace. Well…not fired..not laid off…but rather “position cut”. That’s always a hard one to take. They had no alternative anything. It was hard for me to watch. I’ve made concessions to take on a different work schedule (working shit hours for sure) there to keep a position…as my position was cut too. I conceded to another position and thankfully did not take a pay cut. But damn…times is tough…all over. Best wishes…

  61. Krissy

    I am so sorry that this has happened to you and your family. I wish nothing but the best for you and yours and I pray that this means that nothing but amazing things are on the horizon for you.

  62. Jess

    oh Y I am so sorry. We were in this same pickle when I was PG with Thing 2. I know that it is hard to see now but things will get better. I will keep fingers, toes and whatever else I can cross crossed that your Hubby finds work soon.

  63. Assertagirl

    I don’t want to use this comment box to unload my own crap onto this page, but I thought it might help to know that we are in a similar boat…restaurant fire, truck fire, hubby laid off…now he’s working but the weather has been rainy which means he can’t get his full hours, either. Today we found water in the basement. It just never ends.
    Glad your insurance is sticking around, at least! Things will be okay. Hugs.

  64. adri

    geez. i’m so, so sorry. can you set up one of those paypal button things where we can start contributing? or can someone reading this set one up and you put a link on your site or something? i don’t know anything about that stuff, except that $20 here and there would add up.

  65. Carol

    I’m so sorry about all of this. Worrying about money has got to be the worst thing on earth! Ok, not worse than cancer, but REALLY bad. Hang in there,

  66. alayna

    Man! That sucks! Seriously, I’m so sorry, and I’m praying for y’all. I know this is totally unlikely, but move to Texas – we’re like a little pocket that is unaffected by the economy since ours is based on oil. I have no idea what your husband does, but here in Midland, they are hiring in the oil field, and they are desperately looking for workers everywhere – they’re even paying pizza delivery people $20 an hour! Actually, I doubt you would seriously consider it, but Denver City (small town we just moved from) is always hiring guys and they make pretty good money and there’s a great school system too. Low cost of living too. I know, this is crazy, but I just want to help. Hang in there!

  67. michelle lamar

    Big big big big hug going out to you from your lurker fan, whitetrashmom. Been there, done that and it’s awful. Take care and we’re sending good stuff your way.

  68. kim

    gosh Y, that really sucks. i am SO sorry. i’m sending all the positive vibes i can spare over and i hope he’ll be working again real soon!!! *hugs*

  69. Gina B.

    I feel for you. My husband has been out of work since March. At least you have health insurance. That is such a big issue these days.

  70. Amity

    OMG. Things have GOT to turn around for you. I hope PigHunter is able to find something else good ASAP. Big, big hugs!!

  71. Jenn

    I ABHOR the word “lurker” because it makes me feel like some kind of creeper with a ski cap and black shoe-polish on my face hiding between cars (actually I picture one of the bad guys from 101 Dalmations, the cartoon. Is that weird?), but the fact is I found your blog somehow a few weeks ago and I have been reading (in silence…kind of lurking. FINE, whatever). But I have come out of the shadows to tell you to hang in there! I love love love your blog, you and your family are absolutely beautiful, and you seem like the kind of person that people are lucky to know. I’m thinking good thoughts from my creepy, lurker perch.

  72. skyzi

    Love your blog and I would love to help. I’m a recruiter professionally and I could email you a list of positions if you give me the parameters of what he is looking for. Let me know!

  73. Kandace

    My thoughts and prayers are with you. Seriously, OMFG! Anyway, hang in there. The health insurance is something!!!!!

  74. Clementine

    I’m so sorry for this latest crap news. I’m really glad you all still have your health insurance, though! I’m hoping like crazy that something good will come his way and that it’ll be even better than his last job. Best wishes to all of you!

  75. VDog

    Ugh, I am SO SO sorry. ARGH.
    This economy pretty much sucks big donkey balls.
    THANK GAWD you have the insurance for now. I will keep good thoughts flowing for you and your family – hopes for a new job & security.

  76. Miga

    I haven’t commented in forever, but I had an idea that I had to share. Get a part-time job at Starbucks! I saw an episode of Oprah where Suze Orman was telling a woman with a Starbucks addiction to get a job there and even being part-time, she’ll qualify for full insurance benefits after 90 days of working 20 or more hours. Worth a shot.

  77. stephanie

    Hi I just wanted to say sorry about all you are going through. Things will get better. I saw all that you were trying to do to save money and thought you might like this site. It saves some money and you get good food for a decent price. Again, good luck and I will pray for you and your family.

  78. Scattered Mom

    I can so relate to what you’re feeling. For five years, we had everything that could possibly go wrong, GO. I became injured at work and was on Worker’s Comp. Hubs almost died. My hours were then cut. Then he was laid off, and we had to sell our house so he could go back to school. We ere renting a tiny, crappy townhouse. Our son was having some severe problems in school and we were fighting with a school district.
    Hold onto that faith-I can’t tell you how many mornings I drove to work praying in the car that things would get better, and miraculously, everything came together in the end.
    Hang on. The ride might get bumpy, but He won’t leave you.

  79. Lorrie

    Y, my heart and my prayers are with you. We were on top of the world a few years ago, then I got fibromyalgia, and my husband had to quit his job to be Mr. Mom (he had already retired but had a p/t job) and we took the kids outta private school and put them in public school, and then my brilliant mom is now practically comatose thanks to Alzheimer’s, and I just feel like life sucker punched me in the face. It sucks, sucks sucks sucks. But you will make it, because you are strong and lovely and brave and extremely talented, and I’ll be praying for you and better times ahead. I’m not going to cliche you with when God closes a door He opens a window but I hope that a window does open for you. Love from South Carolina.

  80. Vicky

    I so know what you are going through. My husband was laid off in mid-June. Our insurance ended yesterday and while he and my daughter found cheap short-term emergency only insurance my six month pregnant self has to use COBRA because of my “pre-existing” condition. Oh the money, the huge check to write out…
    I am so sorry to hear about this. I know you have faith and will be OK. I know that we don’t really know each other but I’m here because we are just getting out this ourselves and yet I feel more scared now than ever.
    Insurance also doesn’t kick in until Oct. 1. I just feel like so, he has a new job- this could get canned in this economy too…

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