Category Archives: Blogging

I can only hope it’s just “a phase”

I’ve recieved several concerned emails over the past few days, the emails basically contain the following questions.
“Hi, Y. Where are you? Why haven’t you been updating your blog?”
Well, because…

Basically, my daughter has decided to cease taking naps during the day. She’ll fall asleep when I nurse her, but as soon as I lay her down and walk out of the room? That happens. And what does “that” have to do with me not blogging? Well, the only time I feel ok with sitting at this computer is when she’s sleeping. Because they’re only little once and I refuse to sit in front of this stupid thing while that beautiful little girl is awake and we could be having fun together.
HOWEVER. I look forward to her nap time, so I can check my email (only after I scrub the house clean, of course!), read blogs, pay bills (No! SERIOUSLY! I’m in LOVE with online banking) etc. But she’s just decided she’s SO over naps.
“Close your eyes and go back to sleep!” I say to her.
“Are you talkin to me?” She says.

“I KNOW YOU AINT TALKIN’ TO ME! You’re trippin, woman. I LAUGH at naps!”
Then I cry a little, pick her up, dry my tears and proceed to “our spot” on the living room floor where we giggle and pass gas together.
So, there you have it. “The Reason.”

With a great big hug and a kiss from me to you

Back in October, I dumped my old blog (but I renewed the domain because hell no I wasn’t going to let someone else have it) I couldn’t think of a new domain name. Eventually, I picked this one and OH, how Melly laughed at me and called me CHEESY for picking this name and I fully admitted that it was PURE CHEESE. In a way, it was a relief to own my cheese.

Being able to be free with my cheese has been GREAT FUN and I love that anytime I want to write something all cheesy like, I can just go on with my big, bad greasy ball O’cheese self and people don’t blink twice because this is Joy Unexpected… WHAT DID YOU EXPECT TO READ HERE?
And the great part is, even though I went all cheesy on your ass, I still totally talk about vaginas and farting (with my daughter) and tittymilk and all that good stuff, but if I want to write about my unexpected joy? I can because Hello? It’s the title of this blog! DUH.
I just wasted all of that time writing that so I could unload the biggest brick of cheese I’ve ever unloaded on you.
Ready?
I LOVE the comments you people leave here on my Blog Of Cheddah! That’s right, I LOVE you mother fuckers. (And don’t get all pissed because I called you mother fuckers, I need to maintain a little bit of “street credibility”. Besides, when I say “mother fuckers” I mean “blogging brothers and sisters”, ok? Also, I don’t mean I ‘LOVE’ love, I mean, blog love, so please don’t fall in real love with me and stalk me)
I mean, I really LOVE what you people have to say.
Let me give you a few examples of why I’m totally in love with you people.
“If I saw someone that I knew from their blog, I’d pee on their shoes.”– Melly.
“dude. in a pinch, you should just wipe some pine-sol around the house. you don’t actually have to clean with it… just make everything smell like pine. because, for most people, pine smell = clean. –Mikey
“I love bitches and whores.” –Sphinxy
“Yeah well screw the duct tape, I’d have been throwing it across the room like I was a contestant in a midget tossing contest.” – Janis
“Reading between the lines…
Did you just tell me to fuck myself? In a way that I look forward to it?
You are SUCH a diplomat!” – Ben
I could go on and on and on, but I won’t. At least not tonight because I’m tired and I have to poop. But maybe I’ll continue with the “I love you, man” cheese tomorrow and I’ll declare tomorrow “HONOR THY PEOPLE WHO LEAVE COMMENTS THAT MAKE ME LAUGH DAY!
Seriously though, I love you guys, and I am so relieved I was finally able to just open up and tell you that.

PARDON ME WHILE I SEND A PERSONAL MESSAGE TO A PERSONAL FRIEND NAMED MELLY


(To everyone who isn’t Melly…Feel free to ignore this message.)
OR… You could all agree with me and leave lots of comments here telling her that YOU would like it if she would turn her comments on too! Because when she writes posts like this I can’t STAND not being able to leave brilliant comments like “jajajjajaa THE YELLOW HIGHLIGHTER!!!!!”

Don’t hate, participate

I have tried to start a “100 things” about me list for the past two years that I’ve been blogging.
The problem? I seem to get past “I have a vagina”. (Which happens to be #1.)
So, since it’s been over 2 years and I can’t seem to write the damn list, I think that I’ll do a “100 things about me, according to the people that read my blog.”
That’s right, beyotches, I’m going to let YOU write my “100 things” list. I know you feel all honored ‘n shit. Admit it, you do.
Leave your “thing” in my comments and as soon as I have 100, I’ll make the damn list.
(p.s. Don’t be all kissyassass either. I mean, you can totally say nice things about me (i.e.her boobs make me horny because they’re so asslike.) but, yo, keep it real. (i.e. “if she’d only stop eating flaming hot cheetos and dipping bisquits in honey, she’d lose the weight she always cries about)
I trust you will NOT disappoint me.

Introducing…The Cheese&trade

Where do I start?
How about I start by thanking Sphinxy for helping me with EVERYTHING and for making me a new design with Jay Mohr, whom everyone knows I love and who “likes me alot” right back and who is REALLY HOT. Oh how I love him. She really is too good to me. She still is working on a few things, but she said I can post, so A’ POSTIN’ I GO.
Second? Thank you for all of the emails. People actually LIKE me, that’s insane! Thank you.
Now, let’s just get the very CHEESY new url out of the way, ok? Because I know you’re thinking, “holy crap, she’s gone all soft on us!”
I can’t help it. My little baby girl has turned me into one big ball of cheesy, sweet goodness. I’m like a 13 year old girl in love for the first time who can’t shutup about how TOTALLY in love she is. Ma’Melly said “I don’t even know who you are anymore”. And I have to agree. My baby girl has changed me. For the better, believe me.
It was time to change. I’m no longer “confused.” I’m no longer sad. Or empty. Or angry. Or bitter. Or any of those things that the old blog reminded me of. SEE? CHEEEEEEEEEEESE.
I will admit that the thought of changing was forced on me, but once “that” happened, I realised that yes, it was time to move on to a new chapter. (Although I will FULLY admit that I was sad I’d lose my 1,000 hits a day. Yeah, I care about that. YOU DO TOO, admit it!)
Oh for CHRISSAKES. IT’S A DOMAIN CHANGE! It’s not like I had a heart attack and had to contemplate life, I JUST CHANGED URLS!!! I know, I KNOW THIS… but it feels good to move on, to change, to grow.
THE CHEESE MUST STOP. MAKE IT STOP BEFORE I KILL MYSELF CHOKING ON CHEESE. please?
Feel free to link me, blogroll me, whatever, just refer to me simply as “Y” or link to the title of the blog “Joy Unexpected” No references to “the old” place would be greatly appreciated.
Ok now, If you found me… SAY SOMETHING ALREADY.

I can feel the love.

While I was putting away the gift I just recieved from Etherian for my baby, I started to reflect on the kindness of people I’ve met through blogging.
When I was at the lowest point in my life recently, suffering from depression, self injury and other mental health issues, I was amazed at the kindness of people I’ve never met who read my blog. I would get countless emails of people who had been through the same thing, telling me their stories and encouraging me to be strong and that things would get better. People would send me their phone numbers and tell me to call anytime I needed to talk. I was humbled at the kindness and well wishes of people.
When I got better, when I finally started to learn to love myself and to be happy again, people rejoiced with me. They were happy for me. I have saved the emails I had recieved during that time and I never plan on deleting them.
More recently, I’ve been overwhelmed with support for this totally unplanned pregnancy. I have recieved gifts, cards and emails. I do not take this kindness and thoughfulness lightly at all. I value every well wish, every gift, every kind word. They are all little tokens of love and I can’t even put into words how much they mean to me.
It really hit me today that some of the people who read this blog geniunely care about me and my well being and I don’t want another day to go by without saying thank you. If you only knew how amazing it feels to have your support.
I’ve started a little storage box for baby items, and everything in there has been giving to me by someone who reads this site. Some are people I’ve met and I call friends, some are people I don’t even know who have sent things with little notes telling me how my writing has touched them in some way. Not one thing in there is from someone I know in “real life”. That touches me and I truly am grateful for each and everyone who has shown me they care, whether it be a comment wishing me and my family well, or the generousity of a gift for this little baby girl we’re expecting. I am grateful, my family is grateful and I just wanted everyone to know how I am feeling right this moment.
Several people I’ve met through blogging have hurt me and broken my heart and I have held on to that feeling for too long and neglected the good people out there. The people who, inspite of all of my faults and imperfections, have continued to bless me with friendship and support.
I’m so glad I finally learned how to let the negitivity NOT affect me and to focus on what is good. And the love, support and care I’ve recieved from so many of you who read this is what is GOOD. Truly.
And I thank you from the bottom of my heart.